Um...I really need some advice.

[tosophistic8]

I'm a 17 year old girl...and I basically hate myself "down there". It didn't always bother me though, up until my friend's party last summer. So I was at this party sitting around with my friends and some random people, and these boys started talking about vaginas....why, I don't know. One guy was like..."I hate the way some of them look," and another one said..."ya all buldgy...i hate those kinds of girls, makes me want to be a virgin (or something along those lines)"

 

and whatever else they said...and this totally shot my confidence...cause, im one of "those kinds of girls."

 

So is it true then? Do guys really dislike the way my "girl part" looks?

Because if they do...then damn that really sucks.

 

Hmm...some advice?

[Yvette84]

umm How do you know you're "one of those girls?"......I personally think they all look gross!! But i'm a girl so maybe that's why. Point is. If you're with a guy and he loves you, he won't care! he'll find beauty in it. It shouldn't matter unless he's shallow.

[melrich]

Same as anything, everyone will have different preferences. I wouldn't sweat it. If you put your vagina in front of that boy I guarrantee he would get excited.

[LostInMyThoughts]

Awww

 

Sorry that you had to be so privvy to sucn immature boys.

 

I'd bet you money, the last time those boys saw vagina in real life, was right when they were being born.

 

Those boys were idiots.

[Fisch]

Hehe, you have nothing to worry about. I am assuming that it was 17 or so year old boys who made these comments, they have a lot to learn. I am sure that eventually they will learn to stop basing all of their judgement off of porn stars , and learn to appreciate a real womens body at some point. Everybody has their preferences, this is just one of those kinds of conversations that guys like to have with eachother but dont really have much credebility behind them, trust me I am a guy. Even if a guy did think that your genitals were on the lower end of attractiveness (which I seriously doubt is true at your age) anyway, it is really not a deciding factor on your overall attractiveness. Either way I can tell you that we like to make a bigger deal about it than we really think it is. Lastly it sounds like you are basing your judgement off of a pretty skimpy description, what these guys are describing and what you actually have are most likely very different with the kinds of **** they probably look up on the internet or whatever. Be proud of your body and others will follow suit.

[NKP]

They are just still little boys they need to grow up. Guys penis is not good looking at all. Dont worry what those boys said love yor body the way it is and the love of your life whn he comes he will love it the way it is aswell

[Anna.]

Don't you let some immature disrespectful jerks make you feel bad or ashamed. I think it was extremely rude of these guys to sit around and talk so disrespectively about women's bodies, especially in front of you! and especially since they all entered this world through a vagina. They clearly do not have much experience or they would probably have a greater appreciation of the female sex organs.

 

Women's bodies are beautiful, delicate and can do a heck of a lot more than those guy's bodies can. Can life come out of a guy's penis? I don't think so. I am very proud of who I am and what parts I have.

 

I am a straight female, and I think vaginas are beautiful.

You should read The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler.

[NKP]

I am a straight female, and I think vaginas are beautiful.

 

I totally agree with ya

[Rain__man]

Don't sweat it hon, as was said... the guy who loves you will love the rest of ya Highly doubtful you'd find him chiming in the midst of that conversation.

[surreal123]

I'm a male and I can tell you that it will mean 0% to me and I think it will probably be so for 99.9999999999999999999% of the population.

[agent1607307371]

I love vulvas too.

I even love that word, it sounds like a tropical plant... ok..

 

Honestly, they can look a bit off putting at first, but heck, I still find penises hilarious and I love them too. No man who is worth being with will put down any part of your body, and to be honest - the opinion of teen boys? Pshhht! I'm sure the place they've seen one is on the internet.

 

Have you ever read the Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler? Thats a good book for coming to terms with your vagina.

 

And remember this - the average penis has around 2000 nerve endings. The average clitoris has 10 000.

[bhzmafia]

If I was with a girl who I liked/loved, what she looked like down there wouldnt matter at all.

 

I assume thats what its like for EVERYONE

[lunatic]

Don't put any stock into what the little boys had to say. I agree if there was a REAL vagina in their bed they would not even notice the size and shape. I love all vagina as long as they are clean and healthy.

 

I agree that the only place these little boys have seen a vagina is on the internet on some porn site.

[sparkle1]

Like us they are all different!

 

Little boys and there little 'idea's' of 'idealism'.

 

Vagina's are amazing. They may not be beautiful...but they are to the one who loves you.

 

Can we just a moment for the fact that yes vaginas are of course sexual organs - but likewise the opening of life into the world - how can that possibly be ugly?!

[jsx730]

The funny thing about male/female genitalia is that they are only beautiful because of what they represent. If you take a penis or vagina completely out of context, there just a weird looking flab of skin. However, because of the intimacy involved with our parts, they become a beautiful part to be loved and worshipped =P

 

For the OP: Just chalk this one up to immaturity on the part of the boys. Don't think for one second that you are "ugly down there".

[Anna.]

^ I disagree. I think that it is possible to find sex organs beautiful in and of themselves.

[jsx730]

^ I disagree. I think that it is possible to find sex organs beautiful in and of themselves.

 

Well, I guess we'll have to agree to disagree.

 

I don't really think it's possible to take it out of context. I could never dettach everything that is associated with my partner's genitalia in order to actually look at it with an unbiased feeling.

[anthony06]

yeah...amen to the lostinmythoughts guy...the more u hear a young guy talking about something (esp in front of a crowd) sexual like that the less credit u should give him...its all horse sh#t to look macho and impress...

[rmpavlock]

Those boys are just immature. Don't worry about what they think.

[4InchFury]

Those boys are just jerks/immature/whatever don't listen to them. To me, the only vulva/vagina that is ugly is one that has sores or is deformed, like from STDs.

 

Can life come out of a guy's penis?

 

 

Yes, that's where it starts.

[Deviant_Kate]

You should read The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler.

 

What she said.

 

There's nothing ugly about your "girl parts." Seventeen year old boys are basically stupid (No offense to those seventeen year old boys reading this, 'cause I know you're not all stupid sacks of immaturity). Like others have said, if any one of those guys actually saw you naked, they'd undoubtedly forget all about their hatred of vaginas. Love yourself! Confidence is sexy.

[lunatic]

Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[Rain__man]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Anna1216 View Post

Can life come out of a guy's penis?

 

Yes, that's where it starts.

Cheers!

 

Guys get no respect, no respect I tellya.

[agent1607307371]

Cheers!

 

Guys get no respect, no respect I tellya.

 

And thats where it ends if it's got nowhere to go.

 

It's a joint effort.

[Anna.]

"Quote:

Originally Posted by Anna1216

Can life come out of a guy's penis?

 

 

Yes, that's where it starts."

 

 

Not so. A sperm nor an egg is a living thing all on its own. So life does cannot begin until they meet, which as you know occurs in the woman's body after the male is out of the picture.