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surreal123

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  1. I'm a man and nothing beats the real deal (sex) but masturbation is an alternative if my girlfriend is not around or tired, etc... It's just a release and I don't think it really has much to do with happiness in a relationship. It's probably just a way of getting rid of some sexual tention that is not needed at the given point in time.
  2. I've been in such a situation and broke it off. After all the heart ackes and pains were over I still today feel I made the right choice and can remember my frustration, guilt and all the unpleasantness this caused me. With my present girlfriend (we are engaged) I made it clear that 'no sex' for long periouds of time would frustrate me to climb walls and may result in a deal breaker. This sounds cruel but I think you have to be 100% honest what you expect of a relationship with your partner. You have to communicate your needs. (Especially for men in long term relationships) - (She understood and replied that I'm only human)
  3. I think in a biological sense (and propably social sense too) that men are programmed to want to have sex. It's probably so for the female side as well but I think woman are more into the emotional side of things than men. In my understanding a man will normally feel love, appreciated, when he has sex with a woman for the right reasons. A woman will want to have sex when she feels loved. ... and woman and men are different and I think in a relationship these need to be looked at and worked out. You will need to understand your partner and he will need to understand you. At the end of the day it's all about give and take and acceptance.
  4. I would also say add to my question that let's say that you are in a trusting loving relationhip..
  5. Here's a question that I find rather interesting. Do woman like or dislike it when a man ejaculates inside her?
  6. I'm a male and I can tell you that it will mean 0% to me and I think it will probably be so for 99.9999999999999999999% of the population.
  7. Me and my girlfriend of two months have been talking about getting engaged. During the last two months I have seen her every day including weekends. We just can't seem to get enough of each other. She's my best friend and lover. I'm crazy for her, and she for me. Within the first couple of dates I had the idea in my head that this is the woman that I will marry one day. She says the same thing. I'm still a little dumbfounded that I met her and it feels and looks like a match made in heaven. She's 22 and I'm 31 and at first I was exceptionally sceptical but rationally I think that this can work. We agreed that we'll get engaged this December and get married within a year from then. Today she asked me if we could do it within two weeks. I have no idea what brought this on. After some talk I said that I feel that it would be to soon and that I think it would be better to wait until December. It looked like this sent the alarm bells going off with her. After some more talk I asked her to give me a day or two to think. I'm not sure what to do now, as I feel that I've known her only two months and that it's to soon. Is it to soon? I'm also a little worried about what my parents and her parents will say about it (because it's so soon) and this will very likely not carry the acceptance of my parents or hers.
  8. I had something like that before. Could not climax but when it happened I was extremely tired or if I drink alcahol it also happens. The first time it happened I could not believe it. I have a high sex drive. So the thing that really helps in that area is to stay in shape and eat the right stuff - that for me is a sure fire cure. I might be wrong but I think getting into shape also effected my size. It looks bigger and becomes harder.
  9. Sorry, I should have made it clearer - we've been seeing/dating each other for about a month and 2 weeks ago I asked her to be my girlfriend. I've been badly burnt a couple of months ago and came out of a 1 and a half year relationship. Since I met my new girlfriend I have never looked back - not once. Me and her just feels right. Thing is with my new girlfriend I've been taking things very slow as I think it would probably be best as I recently came out of a relationship. (she knows) I'm 31 she's 22. This is probably why I'm taking it slow as well. I'm her second boyfriend - but I don't think she's inexperienced. I get the idea she has big expectations but she told me that she values her relationships very high. (Very important to her) Thanks for the advice. Very good insights.
  10. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 2 weeks. Everything seems to be going really well but yesterday she kind of freaked me out. She says I show no emotion and that she can't read me. I got the idea that she was uncertain about us and that she's scared. So I replied that in the start of a relationship things are normally a bit new and uncertain, but that I'm going nowhere and that she has nothing to worry about. I don't understand why she says she can't read me or that I show no emotion. I'm crazy about her. Our conversation was cut short as I had to drop her off somewhere. What does it mean when a woman says she can't read you or that you don't show any emotion? I would like to think I do.
  11. I think in general if a man becomes to needy that he kills the attraction. Men that are attractive are real men - not wussies. (That's probably why I see a lot of jerks with some of the hotest woman I've ever seen) In nature speaking terms men are destined to be the protectors and the stronger of the family unit. (speaking about how things were in the stone age) Also from early childhood, most men are probably taught/programmed not to show emotion. (Emotional outbursts in general are probably more tolerated with woman than men in early childhood)
  12. I met a woman that lives about 100 miles from me. Never had a long distance relationship (if you could call it that) and I doubt that it would work as I would not be seeing her a lot. On the other hand I don't know if she is that into me. (I get the idea she is) .. We've been on one date. Anybody have any advice on something like this?
  13. I broke up with my now ex girlfriend about 3 months ago. (We have been together 1 1/2 year) She managed to make me the most misserable I've ever been in my life. Was a very unstable relationship. So I think I did the right thing to end it. At the moment I still feel like crap every day. In the last month I've been dating 3 woman but I'm not interested in any of them. I don't understand why I'm not in the least interested. I'm 30 and really want to find some one to settle down with and that sort of thing. I know I am not gay. Anybody had this before or have some advice. I probably need to heal up. I'm just scared I'm going to stay like this for a really long time. On the other hand I think I'm too scared to go into a new relationship and disappoint some one again or hurt them because things are unstable or we are not compatible. Terrible thing when you love some one and things get really unstable. In the end with the ex I never knew where I stood with her. One day hot, one day cold, one day happy, one day moody, one day crazy, etc... drove me insance.
  14. Just talk about kissing. About a kiss you've seen in a movie, etc.. This will set up a good frame for a first kiss and might give him the idea that you would like to be kissed. If he is very shy then it might be better to be more direct .. in this event when-ever he asks something of you or asks you a question tell him that you cannot do that for him or answer him because he owes you a kiss. (Just like you would make a friendly joke with some one) - After that he will definitely know that you would like to be kissed.
  15. It's now been about 2 months since me and my girlfriend broke up. We have been in contact but every time I saw her I felt extremely bad afterwards. I want to get back with her, but she does not. A week ago I told her that it was not a good idea that we see each other anymore and she said that she would leave me alone. (I basically broke contact about 3 weeks ago - I didn't text her or phone her and decided that if she does not want to get back with me that I would not contact her again) At present I have met 2 new woman. I have basically only been set up by friends. I had no desire to meet them. One of the woman I think would really be some one I would like to get to know better, but at present I have no desire to date or see anybody. I still feel to bad about the breakup with my ex. Feel like crap everyday. I now have two options and that is to start dating this new woman or not do so. If I don't I will probably loose her and just become her friend where it will lead to nothing in the future. Anybody have any advice on what to do? Thanks.
  16. I broke up with my girlfriend a while back. A week later I realized that I made a mistake and that I thought that we could work things out. I basically broke up with her because at times I was bending over backwords just to keep her happy. Afterwards I realized that I was also acting like a jerk a lot of the time and that I could have done a lot to avoid the kind of mess we were in. She did not want to know anything about getting back together. I tried for another couple of weeks to get her back (saw her about once/twice a week) but lately I don't want to see her anymore because we seem to just be friends with benefits and this kind of really sucks. I like having sex with her but it seems to be causing me pain as we are not together anymore. I still want to get back together with her but she does not want to know anything about it. Do I just move on or does she still want to get back together. The last two weeks or so I have made no effort to contact her and she has been phoning and texting me and organizing get-togethers. I get the idea that she wants to get back together but then I get the idea she just wants to be friends. Other times I think she is just seeing me to hurt me to get back at me for breaking up with her. I'm very confused and feel that this is draining me emotionally. Do I just start avoiding her or is there hope? I know she still have feelings for me.
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