Question for girls?

[cheerfuldaisy]

To all the girls out there:

 

It is just a question:

 

If a guy come to you and asked you out for a movie just the two of you but you are not interested in him at all, will you go watch a movie with him?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Probably not, unless I had made clear to him that he understood I wans't interested. I wouldn't want to go if he thought it could lead to something more, if I already knew it just wasn't going to happen.

[Meow18]

I would say no. I wouldn't want to lead a guy on in anyway if I wasn't interested. And I have learned that sometimes even if you say you aren't interested, sometimes just going to a movie with them will lead them on. So I would probably say no in a nice way.

[justpaisley]

Nope. You don't want to lead him on and let him down later. If you're still interested in him as a friend, let him know that, and invite several mutual friends along.

[vandgsmom]

Nope. Just ends up being a bad situation all the way around....

[hosswhispra]

No. Why lead someone on, right? I sure would not appreciate being lead on.

[n83]

If I knew he liked me and regarded the movie as a date, I would say no..

[southerngirl]

Ill add to the overwhelming... NO.. i wouldnt.. I wouldnt want to lead them on.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Wow! For once it looks like we have consesus!

[annie24]

No, I wouldn't want to lead him on either....

 

However, if I thought i made it clear to him that I only liked him as a friend, and if I thought that he only liked me as a friend... then I would go. but I would definitely not go if I thought he liked me.

[Smile_83]

I would say no as well... after all you don't want him to get the wrong idea.

[TheRedQueen]

Some random guy? Absolutely not.

[tretneo]

what if it is a guy that you knew for a long time but he recently revealed to you that he had liked you for a long time and always wanted to ask you out. Would that change things at all? would you go anyway based on the past friendship?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

what if it is a guy that you knew for a long time but he recently revealed to you that he had liked you for a long time and always wanted to ask you out. Would that change things at all? would you go anyway based on the past friendship?

 

Ewww...the only way that would change things for me is that I'd probably be even more resolute about not going alone with him. I mean if I didn't like him back, that is. I mean it's kind of creepy to be out with someone when you know he's lusting after you and you're so not there with him.

[annie24]

i've been in that situation also, and I backed away from the guy until I was pretty certain that he was over me.

[coollady1957]

I will agree with the majority here and say that NO ,I would not go. I would hate to give any false hopes or feel as though I might be misleading them by agreeing to go.

[Anna.]

I agree with the majority here in regard to the OP's question.

 

But...

in regard to tretneo's question, yeah I would probably go if the guy and I were already friends and then he let me know he had feelings for me and I didn't. I wouldn't necessarily want to lose the friendship b/c of a crush. He'd just have to know the feeling was not mutual.

[tretneo]

Anna, how would you let him know? would you just say it very straight forward or would you give signals?

[needing_him]

i think i would go to the movies but i would say tht we were just going as friends not really as a couple

[MaeMae]

I would ask rather skeptically, "Is this a date or just friends hanging out?" If he said a date, I'd look pained, but say, "Well, I'm not really interested in you like that, but if you don't mind just being friends, I'll go."

[tretneo]

Ok thanks for the answers on that little twist there ladies... I only asked because I am in a situation like that and I am still trying to figure out the signals

[Roi]

Thank You!

[cheerfuldaisy]

Then how should I reject watching a movie with him without hurting his feelings?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Just say, since I don't think of you as anything more than a friend, it would feel too much like a date to me if we went alone. Maybe we can go with a group of friends some day.

 

Of course, my experience leads me to believe that he will question you on it, and try to change your mind...

[annie24]

Then how should I reject watching a movie with him without hurting his feelings?

 

what i would do.... is say something like, "Oh no, I already have plans for that night, sorry." then talk to him on the phone for a while and tell him about the new guy you have a crush on.