Dako Posted July 1, 2006 Share Posted July 1, 2006 Breaking up hurts like the hell it is, but time really does heal you. Being civil can salvage something from the ashes. Today I talked with my ex about an upcoming surgery. She's having a brain tumor removed in a very delicate procedure in 3 weeks. We joked and chatted about our lives in the 9 months we've been split. Both of us are busy with work and personal growth. We covered lots of ground. I told her I love her, and she said the same. It's genuine. We still call each other sweetie or dear, and enjoy talking about the things we still share. I feel lucky to have such a fine ex-wife. Sometimes life deviates from the standard script. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 1, 2006 Share Posted July 1, 2006 oh dako (((HUGS)))) I'm sorry things went down hill. But it's really good that you two are still kind to each other and care. do you think someday you'll reconcile? Link to comment
brando Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 Dako, It is refreshing to see two ex;s actually be honest and open about how they feel towards one another. Makes me wonder why more relationships could not end this way.. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 life is short and bittersweet. i'll be keeping my fingers crossed for a successful surgery. Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 Wow Dako, What a nice thing that you two can be civil and actually be there for each other during a time such as her surgery. I certainly hope the best outcome for her. Link to comment
pablovblack Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 i feel you man.. its true time heels. Link to comment
Entomon Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 It's encouraging to know that even after a break up two people can still maintain a genuine friendship and be there for one another in tough times. I wish your ex-wife to get through this difficult time in her life with flying colors. Link to comment
whatchamacallit Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 Dako, My ex-H occasionally e-mails me wanting to get back together. Would you ever get back together with your ex-wife? I don't want to with mine, and frankly wish he would move on, even though it's so difficult. It makes it hard for me to move on when he can't and is always asking me to get back together. We are civil, but if I talked like you do to your ex, he'd be begging me EVERYDAY to get come back. Just wondered if you would ever reconcile with yours. If it would be a good idea. Link to comment
Dako Posted July 2, 2006 Author Share Posted July 2, 2006 Thanks all. We're each on a separate path now. No more of that for me. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 do you think your separate paths may cross again in 10 years or so? Link to comment
keenan Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 do you think your separate paths may cross again in 10 years or so? annie, i want to borrow your glasses. Link to comment
annie24 Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 sorry. I'm a hopeless romantic. Link to comment
Dako Posted July 2, 2006 Author Share Posted July 2, 2006 Annie's sweet. No, I wouldn't inflict myself on her for Part II. Link to comment
Silentlyfor Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 Friendship is something I fantasize about, not hope for in the future. I could be the happiest person in the world if, when my ex is out of my head, I'll be happy never to see her ever again. In my head or otherwise. Link to comment
shelly7 Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 I've had other relationships end, and I've always wished my ex well. I can't do that this time around. I'm not strong enough yet to look past his betrayal. And when I finally am capable, I don't think I would want someone with his character as my friend. Link to comment
Silentlyfor Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 What I try to remember(and I'm trying to create a belief system to help me through this), is sometimes some people can do the most reprehensible things in the world to you and thier following happiness or gratifacation afterward looks like they "got away with it". Unfortuneately, what they did is not against the law to abandon someone you love and it could happen at any time. They won't apologize for it. They won't take your pain away. And they definitely will not suffer for it. The only thing you can do is say that the got away with breaking your heart. It's unfortuneate, but I don't think I"ll even see my ex again regardless. Let's just say it's the last horrible thing they'll even do to us. Link to comment
shelly7 Posted July 2, 2006 Share Posted July 2, 2006 what they did is not against the law . well it should be! I'm being stubborn because your words sting a little, even though your're right. Link to comment
notanymore Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 dako really glad for u , i kno how u feel.cheers mate, u r a great guy Link to comment
keenan Posted July 3, 2006 Share Posted July 3, 2006 sorry. I'm a hopeless romantic. me, too. i was partly serious. Link to comment
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