shy_guy_3 Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 okay me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 weeks (today) and like we kiss in the halls at school and all and we dance atthe dances and stuff like that...but like when im around her...kissing her or dancing and sometimes just holding hands and stuff, I find that I get an erection and have to kinda back away, coz im afraid of what she might think..I dont want her to think my mind is in other places if ya know what I mean...so what should I do? just let her feel it? or just keep backing away? I could really use some help on this one please ladies Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 Hmm. That's a tough one. I think the men might be able to help; having to deal with it themselves. I don't have a penis so I'm not sure how I would handle that situation! Link to comment
robowarrior Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 Just considering it as normal would be the best thing for you , as long as you know your own intentions that should be enough for you. Link to comment
arwen Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 Hahaha, my bf has the same... it already starts to climb north when he sees me! I take it as a compliment, and it's quite a turn-on. However, we are sexually active, and if you're not you might consider hiding it for a bit. It will be normal for her once you start having sex as well. Ilse Link to comment
PocoDiablo Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 Don't make a big deal about it. In other words, don't rub against her, and don't back away. Either or a bad move. If you rub against her she's likely to be offended. If you back away, she's likely to think you don't like her. Getting hard is a fact of life, you know it, she knows it ... everyone knows it. The last thing you want to do is pretend reality doesn't exist. Just enjoy it and go with it, and try not to poke anyone's eye out. Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted April 13, 2006 Author Share Posted April 13, 2006 Hmm. That's a tough one. I think the men might be able to help; having to deal with it themselves. I don't have a penis so I'm not sure how I would handle that situation! well what would you think if your guy got an erection from kissing you...or holdin hands or something? Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted April 13, 2006 Author Share Posted April 13, 2006 Hahaha, my bf has the same... it already starts to climb north when he sees me! I take it as a compliment, and it's quite a turn-on. However, we are sexually active, and if you're not you might consider hiding it for a bit. It will be normal for her once you start having sex as well. Ilse yeah maybe...im not rushing sex, lol...im 17 and a virgin...I dont know if she is though or not...I try not to bring that subject up...for obvious reasons Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted April 13, 2006 Author Share Posted April 13, 2006 Don't make a big deal about it. In other words, don't rub against her, and don't back away. Either or a bad move. If you rub against her she's likely to be offended. If you back away, she's likely to think you don't like her. Getting hard is a fact of life, you know it, she knows it ... everyone knows it. The last thing you want to do is pretend reality doesn't exist. Just enjoy it and go with it, and try not to poke anyone's eye out. yeah...thanks...did you have to throw the poking eye out thing in there? :shocked!: :shocked!: :shocked!: Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted April 13, 2006 Author Share Posted April 13, 2006 thanks Ladies and Gent's but I'm still not 100% sure on what to do... Link to comment
PocoDiablo Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 Don't do anything, that's the point! Link to comment
jabele Posted April 13, 2006 Share Posted April 13, 2006 No worries- you're 17! That's totally normal. If you think it might make her uncomfortable, just try not to press against her with it. Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted April 13, 2006 Author Share Posted April 13, 2006 yeah TRY is the key word there, like when we are dancing...we are pretty pressed together Link to comment
pumkin_fairy Posted April 15, 2006 Share Posted April 15, 2006 i think it's hot when im kissing a guy and he get's hard! although at school.... it's not happened but i wouldnt be bothered ... but hey i'm english! ask some blokes too jen xxxx Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted April 15, 2006 Author Share Posted April 15, 2006 but hey i'm english! lol, well there's really not that much difference is there. lol Link to comment
bambootree Posted April 20, 2006 Share Posted April 20, 2006 If its hard like a bamboo stick, I would keep it inside. Let her discover it for herself! Link to comment
lizylyz Posted April 30, 2006 Share Posted April 30, 2006 My bf has the same problem but I take it as a compliment. Its good to know that i have that kind of effect on him. It doesn't bother me. If it bothers your girl maybe she needs to deal with sexuality and reality. Also, a girl can figure out when a guy is turned on. Its in the way he kisses or touches, even when he's trying not to be obvious. So just let her deal with it because you can't keep backing away, it sends the wrong message to her. Link to comment
clubbinguy Posted April 30, 2006 Share Posted April 30, 2006 dude, if youre dancing so close that your crotch is normally grinding against her body, I think you've passed the "will I offend her by being excited" phase. At 17, this surely won't be your final relationship. I say just be natural and if she is so offended by that (which I doubt she would be) that she wants to split up over the fact that you find her attractive, you'll find another that realizes it's a normal, natural part of being male. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 well what would you think if your guy got an erection from kissing you...or holdin hands or something? I take it as a compliment. It makes me smile, and depending on the situation... It's all grand. Nothing to be ashamed of at all. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 do you think she is unfamiliar with the male anatomy? Or just male hormones? Link to comment
Metal-Head14 Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 this might sound stuipid but when u know u are going to be with her that day where more restricive undys lol Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted May 1, 2006 Author Share Posted May 1, 2006 this might sound stuipid but when u know u are going to be with her that day where more restricive undys lol haha, im comando...so yeah that dont work for me Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted May 1, 2006 Author Share Posted May 1, 2006 do you think she is unfamiliar with the male anatomy? Or just male hormones? iunno I just worry about it I guess, no big though problem is resolved... Link to comment
Metal-Head14 Posted May 1, 2006 Share Posted May 1, 2006 haha just a sugestion. try asking her oppion Link to comment
shy_guy_3 Posted May 2, 2006 Author Share Posted May 2, 2006 haha just a sugestion. try asking her oppion I did sorta, Like I said Problem is resolved I just made a joke out of it one day, lol I was reading one of these forums and then I saw where a guy siad to just make a joke about it so I did, lol I just told her " I think He likes you too" she just giggles and kissed me again Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted May 16, 2006 Share Posted May 16, 2006 do you really think she isn't "throbbing" at the same time?? guys grow, girls throb.... Link to comment
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now