ladeedah Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Soooooo......if shy guys can't make eye contact and run away from girls they like how do guys act when they are not shy but just not that into you? How can a girl know the difference? Link to comment
prettydance Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Not that into you= Making fun of you in joking way, yawning, looking at other women, not holding your hand, not calling you back, etc Link to comment
Mr. Jones Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 They wouldn't pay much attention to you, you wouldnt find them glancing in your direction, and most likely they wouldnt talk to you that much. Link to comment
running gal Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Not that into you= Making fun of you in joking way, yawning, looking at other women, not holding your hand, not calling you back, etc prettydance i'm a bit confused here i always thought if a guy made fun of you in a joking way, teased you etc, he was somewhat interested, or have i been wrong all this time Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Is he calling you? Is he finding excuses to spend time with you? Is he suggesting you two meet up for work/school projects? I think even the shyest guys will try to find of a way to be near you. If he's not doing these things, I'd think he's just not interested.... Link to comment
Mun Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 If you think about it, they would probably treat you the same way you would treat a guy you don't like all that much... Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 His actions don't match his words (ie. "I'll call you tonight" and then you don't hear from him for a week), he is hesitant to make plans in advance, he seems "too busy" to make even a little time for you, he prefers to listen to himself talk rather then ask anything about you, he does not make plans with you until last minute (presumably after other women have turned down his date offers?)...you feel like he is uninterested. Link to comment
friscodj Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 If the emails and phone conversations get shorter and shorter and less frequent, and you feel in general like you aren't a high priority in the other person's life anymore...that's when interest is waning... Link to comment
Msnak Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 RayKay--did you spy on my last relationship? LOL! You described it perfectly. Especially the actions/words---if those don't match, you have a huge problem. Even if the words profess that things will change. Watch and see. Other signs: -the guy starts criticizing you -the guy starts talking about a woman he fancies -you no longer get compliments, gifts, pet names -you don't go out to do stuff as much, it's mostly at home and sporadic (none happened to me, thank God!) Link to comment
tmp0620 Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 "Not that into you= Making fun of you in joking way, yawning, looking at other women, not holding your hand, not calling you back, etc" When I'm into a girl, I definitely make fun of them in a joking way and expect them to do it back. Link to comment
ginger25 Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 In think so many things depend on the person. These are just my thoughts, I would always go with your gut instinct. Chances are if you are asking yourself the question then you are getting no clear signs that he IS into you? And if he isn't then forget about him and move on to someone who shows that he is into you! Link to comment
friscodj Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 In think so many things depend on the person. These are just my thoughts, I would always go with your gut instinct. Chances are if you are asking yourself the question then you are getting no clear signs that he IS into you? And if he isn't then forget about him and move on to someone who shows that he is into you! Yeah, if you're asking the question, the answer is that the other person probably isn't interested in you... Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Yeah, if you're spending more time asking questions than figuring out what to wear on your next date, and responding to all the e-mails he's sending you, then he's just not that interested in you. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted February 16, 2006 Share Posted February 16, 2006 Annie24, I agree with you, if you spend more time analyzing and asking questions if he/she is into you, then they probably arent. Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 RayKay--did you spy on my last relationship? LOL! You described it perfectly. Especially the actions/words---if those don't match, you have a huge problem. Even if the words profess that things will change. Watch and see. Other signs: -the guy starts criticizing you -the guy starts talking about a woman he fancies -you no longer get compliments, gifts, pet names -you don't go out to do stuff as much, it's mostly at home and sporadic (none happened to me, thank God!) LOL.....funny how we are all different, but so often end up in the "same" situation isn't it? I would say him talking about a woman he fancies is INDEED a sign! Link to comment
p0w3RFuL Posted February 17, 2006 Share Posted February 17, 2006 Avoiding the girl to the fullist, and if conversation strikes i keep it small and end it quick Link to comment
Msnak Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Yes, the same situation reoccurs, with different faces and old excuses!!! Link to comment
da12kan6el Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 When the guy doesn't talk to you. When he doesn't give you the time of day. He sees you at his convenience, not yours. He doesn't answer your calls. He doesn't call you. He doesn't make any effort to see you. He ignores you. Link to comment
SomeGuy112 Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 I'm a little confused. Is this a guy you are with and are not sure if he is really into you (anymore/in the first place), or is this a guy you met and think he might be interested but shy? If he's with you, then you probably need to talk. You know him better than the rest of us at any rate and his situation also and you would probably have the best answers to that yourself. If it is a guy you met, there are a lot of different possibilities. First of all, do you know him to be shy? If he has a history of asking out a lotta girls but hasn't asked you out he's probably not interested, on the other hand if he hasn't asked a girl out in years, that's a good hint he might be the shy type. Beyond that, does he seek you out? If you are in a public place together does he spend more time talking to you than he does with other people (excluding whatever may force him to talk to coworkers or whatever on a professional level). Most importantly does he flirt? If he doesn't do those things, well i guess he might be really really shy but what good does that do you? At any rate if you like him and he hasn't shown any just friends signs then drop some hints and see what happens. Btw, i definitely tease and make fun of girls jokingly if I like them. If he makes fun of you in a serious manner and criticizes you (in an unproductive way because if you're coworkers he may just be trying to help you out) then you probably have a problem. Link to comment
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