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  1. The Four Loves by C. S. Lewis. I'm finding it's going a little over my head, but I can't stop. Anyone read it before?
  2. I just cannot seem to finish The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success --Deepak Chopra. Need to start reading and stop going out
  3. The Seven Spritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra it sounds easy enough. We will see. Mun
  4. He needs help, but right now you also need help getting through this. I hope you have friends and family close that you can turn to. You are right, the relationship was abusive. Emotionally and mentally abusive. You basically stopped living for you and only lived for him. He wanted it this way. Now to get you back on track you need to find yourself again and resolve that you won't contact him in any way anymore. He's dismissive, disrespectful and doesn't deserve you. You are so much better than all this. Remind yourself daily that you want better for yourself. How are you holding up? ____________________________ Something worth reading: link removed
  5. I've had myself a good long cry for the "me" that was naive and weak. Then I told myself that I would RUN not walk the next time I saw the 'signs' . Like you I've asked myself, how could this have happened? I don't think you can ever forget something like this and maybe you shouldn't....if to keep yourself safe. You heal yourself and move past it...very slowly, but you keep on going. I think being aware of the problem is half the solution. You should feel good about yourself that you are doing something about this(therapy, self analyzing) . You're getting there...
  6. You say you want a more independent person, then why second guess yourself about her if you felt she was clingy and needy? A little more time might give you more clarity....take it. Loneliness sucks, but so does being with the wrong person for the wrong reasons and at the wrong time. I love how you are thinking about what went wrong and what could have been different. That's how we grow....
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    Hello Kiama, Where is your family? your mom and dad? Do you have a good friend who can be with you now? You want to take half the blame and although it was wrong to slap him he was very wrong to hit you back and the way he did. I'm afraid it will only get worst. Only when you open your eyes to the truth will you be able to start healing and want better for yourself. Face what happened, stop making excuses for him. Abusive people usually tell you that you asked for it in some way, and even worst --YOU are telling yourself this. You should never love someone more than you love yourself. Question: Is this the first time something like this has happened to you?
  8. When I was young and felt that I wanted to die I had it all wrong. What I really wanted was to LIVE... I know the difference now and I'm so glad I stuck around. Good post Dev.
  9. Usually for me by the time I get around to breaking up with someone I've thought it over for awhile....and the feelings have been fading for some time ...... so it's not so difficult to walk away then
  10. How does he feel about your female friends?
  11. OH my, I laughed at that one ! The girls at those places work very hard to stay in fabulous shape and mostly have breasts implants so they can get the good tip$. I think ugly is the last thing they would be called. Doesn't his friend have another, and preferably single, friend that he can invite instead of your guy? It's a personal thing. I wouldn't be bothered if my guy went, unless he made it a habit...but that's me...
  12. Your life is not hell without him, even if he may think that because of the emails. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't give it much thought, but I don't know him. Sorry, going around in circles. I've done that. Email the ex. You want something to change but usually it doesn't and you just feel like a fool. Hun, the best you can do now is just leave it alone. You are moving forward. You know you don't need him, or want him. I've learned that the best way to take back control is to KNOW that I am making these decisions and then I OWN them Example: I chose to email him. What a mistake!! I know I don't want his sorry butt back in my life. Then I let it go and move on. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. He has no control because he didn't make you DO any of this.... you did it and then you didn't like the result....and then you stopped doing it. The control of YOU is yours again. Hope i didn't confuse you much.
  13. Hello there. Well girl, you need to leave him alone and then watch what he does. I know you want the best for him, and for yourself, but you aren't his momma. The more you nag him about it the more he will resent it and probably not do as you want. If he wants a college education he needs to come to that conclusion on his own. Only then will he appreaciate it and do the hard work to earn it. You have plans, goals and you are on the path to achieving them...don't look back or let anyone drag you down. Best wishes
  14. This happened to me and I cancelled the other line. In fact the phone company put a stop on it for a month to give me time to decide what to do with the other line. I agree with the others that the fee to disconnect is worth it... the girl is using up all your minutes to talk to her new boyfriend. Obviosly she doesn't care what happens with you........sorry I know it hurts but maybe you need a reminder. You deserve better. Tell yourself that and call the cell company. Tell yourself that until you believe it. Best wishes
  15. Why are you embarrassed to tell your brother and the gf about the girl? I'd think they would be happy for you. She lives at home and has a roomate? I don't understand....
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