Amano Ginji Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 Hi everyone! Going to keep this short!!I think its going to be tough to understand unless u've been following from the beginning... Need some advice once more... For those who havent been following my previous posts,about how i unwantingly cheated on my gf,Here's the link Ok so now that she has forgiven me for my mistake,I guess its time to forget about it!! But once in a while,She keeps questioning me whether am going to do it again.Do i really love her..Usually its during the night times,Or when shez really feeling down... I am tierd of convincing her that it was just a mistake..It makes me feel really bad when she asks me again and again..I think shez not going to stop asking me such questions for a really long time... Should i tell her to stop askin me the same questions again and again cuz my asnwer is going to be the same..Or should i just give her time..TO get over it... But the truth is,I feel like screaming at her when she asks me the questions..I no i made a mistake n maybe she wants reassurance that i wont do it again..But yet..IT FEELS REALLY BAD WHEN SHE ASKS!!! Link to comment
DN Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 Hey - it may see like a long time to you but it's still very recent for her. She was good enough to forgive you for cheating on her, I think the way to repay her for that is to realise that she is going to need time to be reassured that you won't do it again. She was hurt big-time and you owe her accordingly. Just bite your tongue and put up with it for a while - and by a while I don't mean just a few days. Link to comment
drjqd112804 Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 Hey.. It's been 6 months since i cheated on my boyfriend.. About that long at least. Well, he still questions me and it has not been the same ever since. I have no advice cuz im in the same predicament, but i just wanna say i know how you feel. is my thread if u wanna see my story lol.. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 excuse me, "unwantingly cheated"??????? You know how I feel about this. I think that she has a right to be paranoid. You didn't want to cheat on her the first time, you said you don't want to do it again, but you didn't "mean to cheat" the first time, so how does she know you won't "oops" do it again??? Is there a counseling service on your campus? Maybe you two can go to couples counseling, and have a therapist mediate - help you two establish trust in your relationship again. Link to comment
Bethany Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 So far, you have done the right thing. You told her. And of course she is hurt. When your hurt by someone and even when you have forgiven them and as much as you would like to forget, it's not that simple. She needs lots of time and lots of love and support. Keep doing what she needs for as long as she needs it. It's the least you can do and a small price to pay for her love and trust once more and the best thing to repair your relationship right now. Link to comment
Amano Ginji Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hey Sorry annie i didn't realize wat i had typed could even mean that much.I guess i put it in a wrong way.. Yeah i guess ill have to keep on giving her reassurance..Its nothing compared to how much she has gone through...so i just have to think straight..Its not going to be this way forever..Like everyone has said.. Hmm..But wat about how i feel people... do i deal with it..I am not the one whus spose to be getting angry..But thats wat is happening.. Link to comment
DN Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hmm..But wat about how i feel... Think of it as a consequence of your own actions - a sort of penance for sins committed. 1 Link to comment
Amano Ginji Posted January 29, 2006 Author Share Posted January 29, 2006 Wow u said it all DN...there is no better way of thinking about it... Alright thanx to everyone whu spent time on reading this thread and giving me advice..cuz i know its a long one.. I think the solution to the problem lies in wat Dn has said... Link to comment
yeawutever Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 U own big time to it, but if a year goes by and she still questions you, then that's when I would get mad if I were you. Be patience but don't over do it, at some point, she's gonna have to stop questioning. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 Yea, once cheating occur, it's like shattered glass, it cannot be brought back to it's origin form ever again. Ginji maybe telling her about u dancing and kissing/cuddling with the other girl was a bad idea, in this case, u should have kept silent. Link to comment
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