My Best Friend Conundrum- Unrequited

[Pqrst]

I met my current best friend of 2 a bit years back in 2021, we met online in a dating/hookup aspect, we spoke for months before meeting up and exchanged ideas of relationships, in-fact we built a relationship solely by text and call and social media.

eventually we met up, we sat in a car park and talked and kissed and it was amazing, we both felt our hearts beating ten-fold, the next couple of meets were the same, until he had told me he didn’t think he was ready for a relationship and wouldn’t be able to see us in one for a while or ever. This broke me a little but we agreed to stay friends.

after a couple months of being friends he started talking about a friend I didn’t hear him talk about before and it wasn’t until a little while after I found out it was his new boyfriend, I became so soul destroyed. 
 

anyway 2 years down the line, I barely feel the anxiety of unrequited love and I have gotten used to this boyfriend… Until…. They break up (literally last week) now the feelings are back, but worse because he’s cheated on his boyfriend with another guy I knew who worked with me, this made me so angry and sad, I still love him as my best friend but I thought he’d come back to me after. 
 

now don’t get me wrong I know he has every right to choose who he likes, loves and fools around with, I also support him in his ventures on dating apps right now and be his bestie who he gossips to, but it’s killing me inside knowing the person I love, I mean literally love, doesn’t want me any more than that of a best friend. Despite everything I have ever done.

how do I stop these feelings

[Kwothe28]

Well, you are in gay friendzone aka "gayzone". There is no stopping those feelings as you are still hung up on somebody who just hooked up couple of times with you and moved on. While you still stayed there. Best thing for you would be to just cut him off completely. Until you can toss the idea of you two together and move on to somebody else. Because that guy doesnt want to be with you. Nore he is a suitable candidate for relationship with this kind of behavior

46 minutes ago, Pqrst said:

he’s cheated on his boyfriend with another guy I knew who worked with me

 

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, Pqrst said:

 he’s cheated on his boyfriend with another guy I knew who worked with me, this made me so angry and sad, I still love him as my best friend but I thought he’d come back to me after.

Unfortunately he's just looking for as much sex as he can get in casual and other relationships. If you stay involved emotionally, you'll either have to accept that he runs around a lot or suffer a lot of headaches and heartaches.

Set yourself free. Surely you could find someone who wants what you want if you weren't caught up in him 

[MissCanuck]

2 hours ago, Pqrst said:

I still love him as my best friend but I thought he’d come back to me after. 
 

With due respect, why did you think this? 

He basically called it off with you to date someone else. That says his romantic interest in you just wasn't there. I am not sure why you thought he would have a change of heart after his relationship fell apart. 

2 hours ago, Pqrst said:

how do I stop these feelings

You are going to have to take some space from him for a while. That's the only way. I am sorry you're hurting. 

[Cherylyn]

Stop these feelings because he could cheat on you, too.  That should be your wake up call.