Hi, I’m new here!
I have a conundrum, I am 28 years old and gay, I have never been in a relationship with any gender. I am out to friends but not family.
I met someone on tinder, he’s a few years younger but mature, has a masters degree and works in a professional role.
we spoke for a few days and met up, went for a drive, got coffee and listened to music, a month later, we’ve gone out, hung out a lot, however we’ve not kissed, or done anything more, however he would drop hints like “I hope you don’t snore because if you do I will smother you with a pillow” and similar comments while we banter.
when we started messaged we asked what the other is looking for, and both agreed to go with the flow, that way there is no pressure. (His tinder profile did say “still figuring it out”).
so I sent a well worded text stating that I like him and just wanted to know whether he was on the same flow as me, and reassured him I’m not asking for a relationship or commitment right now and if there isn’t a mutual feeling then I’m better knowing now so these feelings can be worked off.
he responded stating he does like me and he is interested in me, however he made a promise to himself to better his finances and his MH and he isn’t sure what a relationship would do to that at this moment.
I reassured stating that I am happy just to know that we are on the same wavelength, and reassured I am there with regard to his Mental Health and evidenced my support to achieving his life goals.
since then we’ve gotten on as normal, continuing with the flow.
my question is: How do I work towards convincing a relationship with me will not affect his goals and his MH.
what do I have to do or show?
flirting etc what can I do?
again never been in a relationship ever.