Why would an ex boyfriend be so mean and hostile towards me after talking to him at his house than Instagram? He told me be safe

[Herlife]

Basically my ex boyfriend who I have been split up with for 10 months now and who I don’t deal with was being mean and hostile and rude towards me when I went to go speak to him at his house rather than to text  him back on Instagram after the altercation happened at his house he had texted me telling me to be safe after we talked about the situation after it occurred at his house and he watched my Instagram stories right after he was being rude towards me at his house. All of this basically started on the day of my birthday so basically my birthday was on the 4th of February which was on Saturday and basically I was in my ex boyfriend’s neighborhood because one of my close friends lives on the same street as him so I went to her house so that we could celebrate and meet up for my birthday and basically I guess he seen me in his neighborhood walking and all and he decided to wait until after I left the neighborhood an hour later just to text me asking me wassup and that I got his attention now so what did I want and I texted him back on Instagram and told him that I didn’t need or want his attention and that I didn’t need anything or needed to talk nor see him about anything that day so then he texted back and said Ight so then boom the next day he texted me which was on Sunday morning and he texted me asking me if I had been showing people his house so then I responded and said huh *** cause Huh noooo so then I was like come outside cause he lives down the street from me so I told him to come outside so that we could talk about it so then he texted back and said *** weird asf and that I needed to supposedly stop walking around his house which is I never even did that any time I need to speak to him in person I would test him and let him know rather than show up to his house or around his house unannounced so I don’t know where he was getting that from so then he was like im already outside so boom I get I get over their and he’s like *** are you doing  at my house and this and that and I’m just like *** do you mean what am I doing here so then he’s like you can’t just be showing  up to my house like this so then he started being a smart ass towards me and he was being all hostile and mean to me to the point where I was getting emotional because he has never ever in his life spoke to me like the way he did that day and plus he was saying that oh I’m not even going to do you like that because your such and such cousin which is he is cool with the cousin who he mentioned when he said that which is my blood cousin so I took that as offense from him and then he also wouldn’t answer my question I asked him multiple times what led to him to ask me if I had been showing people his house because I would never do that that’s disrespectful and rude and he wouldn’t answer the question he kept dozing off and wouldn’t really look at me when I asked him the question but wanted me to sneer his questions but couldn’t even bother mines and then he was being more sarcastic towards me and then he was pissed due to me basically not answering his questions through Instagram since I had answered them when I went to his house to talk to him about it he basically wanted all of this through Instagram and then after talking to him he walked away and went back into his house and I guess he was watching me because he texted me saying oh why were you acting like you were crying cause I didn’t start crying until he went into his house plus that was like the first time I’ve ever really cried when it came down to him due to how he was acting toward me then he texted me telling me to be safe after talking about the situation from when he texted me after I left his house and then he decided to go purposely watch my Instagram stories right after even though he has his Instagram stories hidden from me as of to I don’t know when I do and we don’t even follow each other on social media so it leaves me confused and lost 

[Cherylyn]

Cut him out of your life.  He's your ex-boyfriend.  Block and delete him from IG, FB, your social media, cell phone, email, messenger, text, etc. 

Don't go speak to him.  Leave him alone and maintain a safe, cool distance.  Learn to ignore him.  Make a clean break and be done with him once and for all. 

Keep moving forward with your life. 

Happy Belated Birthday, @Herlife🎂

[boltnrun]

Why did you create a new user name?

Like I said multiple times before, ask him to get back together. He'll either say yes or he'll say no. That way you can stop trying to interpret his social media activity. 

[Wiseman2]

7 hours ago, Herlife said:

 he’s like you can’t just be showing  up to my house like this 

Once you're broken up, it's better to cease contact. Avoid him and don't show up uninvited.

[poorlittlefish]

If an ex turned up at my house to argue with me then I'd be rude and hostile too. If you had cut this guy's access to your social media, then none of this would have happened. He owes you nothing; you need to erase him from your life and move on.

[Herlife]

3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Once you're broken up, it's better to cease contact. Avoid him and don't show up uninvited.

Once again I didn’t show up invited I told him that I would be on my way to his house to talk to him and he said he was already outside he’s pissed because he wanted to keep texting about the situation through Instagram rather than talk about it in person I asked him multiple times what makes you think to ask me if I have been showing people your house and he wouldn’t answer the question and for some reason after he was being rude to me he decided to basically go see what I posted on my story for him to watch on Instagram and I’m just like dude what’s your problem why do you feel obligated to do that your hiding your stories from me but wants to watch mines whenever you feel like it and then your questioning me and assuming things for what reason 

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, Herlife said:

 he was being rude to me he 

If he's an ex, just delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps and avoid him.

Wouldn't you rather be free to date compatible interested men than spending time playing games with someone who's "rude to you"?

[Herlife]

3 hours ago, poorlittlefish said:

If an ex turned up at my house to argue with me then I'd be rude and hostile too. If you had cut this guy's access to your social media, then none of this would have happened. He owes you nothing; you need to erase him from your life and move on.

I didn’t show up to argue with him he’s the one who initiated the argument I asked a simple question my question was what made you think to ask me if I had been showing people your house and he kept avoiding and ignoring my question on purpose but wanted me to answer his questions he then felt the need to basically go watch what I posted on social media after being rude to me when we don’t even follow each other on Instagram or other social medias 

[Herlife]

10 hours ago, boltnrun said:

Why did you create a new user name?

Like I said multiple times before, ask him to get back together. He'll either say yes or he'll say no. That way you can stop trying to interpret his social media activity. 

I feel like right now due to everything theirs no point of asking him to get back together maybe in the near future or something because I don’t know how he feels and due to him acting the way he was just acting towards me is very strange and uncalled for he’s been assuming things and had been questioning me about certain things but wants to hide things from me for whatever reason and him as far as in watching my social media is not going to cut it idk why he even does it but likes to hide his from me 

[boltnrun]

You keep posting over and over and over asking the same question I know you want it to be because he's in love with you and wants you back that's why I say just ask him to get back together instead of reposting asking us when there's no way for us to know you need to just ask him tell him you love him and want him back you already know he wants sex with you so why not be together just ask him and if he says yes then you can be with him like you want

[Lambert]

Seems like you put a lot of effort into this non-relationship.  It's stressful and not fun.  I wonder why you care about this guy so much.  Sometimes relationships get so damaged, the respect is gone and there's really no hope.  Try to meet some new guys.  Let go of this one.  I think your life will improve in other ways, too.  You will be happier and more yourself, if you surround yourself with people that are better for you.  That care about you and want you to be happy.  Make your happiness a priority and if someone is giving you what you need-- walk away. 

[Jaunty]

Sooner or later you are going to have to let go.  Aren't you getting tired of this?  Your choice.

[Herlife]

3 hours ago, boltnrun said:

You keep posting over and over and over asking the same question I know you want it to be because he's in love with you and wants you back that's why I say just ask him to get back together instead of reposting asking us when there's no way for us to know you need to just ask him tell him you love him and want him back you already know he wants sex with you so why not be together just ask him and if he says yes then you can be with him like you want

That’s the thing I feel like if I ask him he’s not going to do anything but make up excuses or avoid answering to it idk where his head is with the situation and idk if he even loves me based off on everything that had happened between us both 

[boltnrun]

50 minutes ago, Herlife said:

That’s the thing I feel like if I ask him he’s not going to do anything but make up excuses or avoid answering to it idk where his head is with the situation and idk if he even loves me based off on everything that had happened between us both 

So why again are you so enthralled with him is it because he plays games and that keeps you interested because if it were me I would be tired of game playing that's why I say ask him and if he doesn't give you a direct answer that basically means no so you can finally stop obsessing over what it "means" when he says this or that or does this or that but one thing for sure stop going over to his house I get that last time you two did some sex things but don't let him do sex things to you if you not together I still say ask him