Ldz2019 Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 Long story short-a friend was going through a separation while I was going through a break up. We kind of leaned on each other and I developed strong feelings. After a few months he ended up reconciling with his wife and apologized profusely saying he never meant to hurt me. That was a few years ago. He has apologized many times and at one point I told him nc and he asked if he could fix it. I said no. Over time we have talked a little. Just hi and bye and small talk. Recently we were out with mutual friends and he told me he is getting divorced and they were together for the kids and how sorry he is he hurt me. Said he needs closure. I know he is truly sorry but I feel like the wound was ripped open bc we work together and he avoids me sometimes.I’m not sure why. It hurts that I feel like the only one suffering from this.. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 This must be a joke(him not you). He needs closure because he screwed up with his marriage and his rebound relationship with you? Please. Show him to the nearest tissue box and tell him for his closure, it's double ply. Distance yourself and stay professional at work. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 "We're together for the kids"...one of the classics! I'd steer clear of anyone who's separated or going through a divorce, until they've been on their own for a good period of time. All the best... Link to comment
ButWhyTho Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 Oh, he needs closure huh? From what, exactly? He has apologized for hurting you unintentionally the first go-round, what could possibly be gained by rehashing this? Were you intimate with him? Not that it matters much as either way it sounds like he is seeking a refuge and an ego stroke from a female companion while he is still raw from the breakup. Again. Link to comment
Never after Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 He needs Closure?!!! Thats rich.... Tell him your playing the world's smallest violin for him. Keep moving forward never backward you can do.better Link to comment
Afireblue Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 He wants to use you again. Just like he did the first time around. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Great advice above, I hope you are paying attention. Link to comment
SGH Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice... Link to comment
RayofLighten Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 He sounds like a total waste of space. Steer clear. Let him deal with his problems. You don't owe him anything. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Well, there was no love there to begin with because he still loved his wife. He probably won't fall for you because he will always think of you the same way. Find another man to date. Link to comment
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