lostandhurt Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 So I have been single for 4 years now and don't have that urgency to meet someone like I did when I started dating 2 years after my divorce. I am really good being single but I would like to have someone in my life for sure and have been just waiting for it to happen naturally. You know, you meet someone somewhere or friends of friends fix you up kind of thing. I have resisted online dating for all the reasons you see people post about all the time. When I did it last I had a great deal of success and have the thick skin needed but I just don't want to deal with all the crap that comes with it I guess. What makes me feel like I have been single to long is on several occasions I totally ignored or missed women that were trying to chat me up, get me to respond and chat them up or blew off obvious compliments showing a lot of interest. The last 2 got me thinking. -I was at the grocery store and passed by one of those set ups where they give out free samples so I stopped to try some chicken sausage. The lady was much older but she had a friend with her that had stopped to talk to her. Anyways I asked which ones were the hot ones and the friend comments that I am. This woman was attractive but I am not sure she was my type at first glance so I smiled and tried a few more samples (hey I was hungry) and when I turned to leave I said goodbye to each of them and this woman made sure that I knew she wasn't talking about the sausage being the only hot thing. I thanked her for the nice compliment but nothing more crossed my mind. -Just the other day I was handling my part in a memorial for a local politician when I saw a woman that was in great shape, pretty, no ring, smiled at me when I smiled when I walked by and seemed friendly. I was sitting with my crew when she walks around our table and comes right up to me and leans over pretty close and tells me she thinks we know each other somehow. I introduce myself we chat for a few minutes but I don't bite on her attempt to start a conversation that will go somewhere. It was clear she used the "Don't we know each other" line to talk to me but it went over my head for some reason. When I was actively dating I was on all the time. I didn't miss anything and I am not shy around women so I would pick up on subtle clues and approach and talk to whomever anywhere anytime but now it feels like I have become to comfortable being single. Has this happened to anyone else? I am not sure if it means anything other than I am rusty. I am just average looking and feel lucky that women occasionally find me attractive but I seem to be more selective than I used to be, like I am more serious about not starting something that is obviously not for me. Could I be jaded? Insights and comments are welcome as this is a new place for me to find myself. Lost Link to comment
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