Sally1984 Posted February 23, 2018 Share Posted February 23, 2018 Hi all I know this post isn’t going to go down well and I am guessing I will receive a lot of negative comments but I just wanted to put into words what has happened recently and I guess get peoples views although I know most will be bad, that’s why I am posting in a forum hiding behind my keyboard So basically my husband and I (3 kids) have friends (2 kids) we met through our children and have been friends roughly a year, although my friends partner really only around 4 months My husband and I have hit a very stale patch in our relationship, no romance or sex, I think probably having 3 young children is a lot to do with it, and my friends on the surface have a perfect relationship, although been together 13 years and not married (this has been an issue for her) also her man has anger issues, he has never hit her but can fly off the handle at small things and it has scared her a few occasions, other than that they have romance and he provides for the family, but he turns her down for sex frequently. In the time we have known them everytime her man has had a drink and on a few occasions not, but mainly when drinking he flirts with me, says comments that are blatantly flirty, but as mills and boon as this sounds he gives me intense eye contact that literally draws me in, it’s crazy! But when sober he pretty much acts normal around me. His partner often comments that she has to make an effort because of me, as he has said something to her, I don’t know what but he must mention me, and she has started making an effort Anyway the other night we was at a party and got very drunk, we ended up all staying at their house, my husband on the sofa next to the kitchen, his partner upstairs, whilst my husband was awake and I was laying on the other sofa he said “do you mind if I cuddle your MRS” with that I got up, and we were just talking and having a few more drinks, he started with the flirty comments again, giving me that intense eye contact and telling me to smile because I look beautiful when I smile, we talked about the eye contact where he admitted it was a thing! Then he kissed me, I kissed him back it felt so right but I know it’s so wrong, then we literally kissed all night and a little fumble, even when the kids were watching tele in the next room, he kept trying to kiss me. They could have turned round and saw us. Prior to that there has been an occasion where he was drunk round our house and when we was all saying our goodbyes instead of a kiss on the cheek which is what we all normally do he kissed me on the lips, I don’t think our partners noticed but they were there. When he flirts with me he mentions my eyes a lot, I have mentioned the eye contact before and he says it’s easy to look into my eyes because they are so big and beautiful The next day I phoned him and he said that it can’t go on we have too much to lose and we should forget about it (I agreed) i spoke to him today and asked him if the lead up to what happened was real or just in my head, and he said real, we agreed to forget about it, I offered to fizzle our our friendship, which would be impossible because of certain situations and he was adument no! And said we need to act as normal as possible. I was with him tonight in a social situation, and it really was as if nothing had happened, and we were talking as we did before when he was sober I just don’t know what to think about the situation, I realise the advise will mostly be stay away, don’t be friends, and I should tell my husband, and the obvious that I am a selfish evil cow, pond life, but I am genuinely a good person (apart from this) I have never cheated before, what I did I have beat myself up for a lot, I m not going to tell my husband as we need to work through our marriage for our kids (and no I obviously wasn’t thinking about them when I did what I did) :( I was drunk (no excuse I know) and I got caught up in the moment. But my kids are my world and my husband is many things but he doesn’t deserve the heartbreak it will cause and not does my friend, she adores him and has always told me she knows for a fact he would never cheat on her. I don’t really know what I am asking; so all comments appreciated. I am going to ignore the really nasty comments as you will not be able to punish me anymore than I am punishing myself. . Link to comment
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