Starshine Posted February 16, 2018 Share Posted February 16, 2018 Hey there all, I don't know what to do! I'm trying to find the special someone, but I'm constantly being governed by my parents' choices. They think they have a say in everything to do with my life and I love and respect them for it. But they're a bit traditional and religious and in the long run I think they're expecting me to marry a guy of their choice and settle down. But I'm not okay with it. I believe if I want to marry someone it'll have to be for love alone or nothing. Not to mention that I have ambitions that I prioritize than all this. I'm just afraid that there is a sword hanging over my head called 'marriage' and it'd fall any moment and I don't like it. (Not that my parents have indicated such a thing. There is no one in their knowledge that they could marry me off to... which is a satisfaction for me!) But Selfish as it may seem... if..if...if the choice is to be made I want it to be mine. The problem is I don't have my sights set on anyone either. I've been an introvert pretty much my entire life and find it difficult to even make friends. So finding love is like a big big picture. All thanks to my dad and his governing people tendencies. I'm just not okay with all this any more! Plus another thing is my Parents don't let me out alone on my own so that I could get to know life in my way. I have a job as well and strangely they don't mind me being away from home for half of the day when it's work related (They know me to be very professional)But when it comes to going out on weekends on my own and having some fun. I think they don't trust me. Even if I manage to go out on my own just for a morning walk. There's that emotional blackmail called 'We trust you!' which I can see in their eyes. I know this may seem off topic. But the thing is that if I don't get to go out besides work. How in the world am I going to find the person I want to find. I'm frustrated and feel like running away or take a long-vacation alone. But I can't even do that. (I just started my career and I'm saving up for some stuff.) Any advice people. I really need one...and I don't have many people I can ask this from. Just a younger sister who is two years younger than me and we're both pretty much in the same boat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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