going down on a guy

[goddess23]

hey everyone. ok i gave my bf oral a couple days ago for the second time. the first time was about 6 months ago (we broke up and are now back together). anyways...this tiem i probably did it for about....4 minutes? and i thought i was using alot of different movements, licking the tip, up and down the shaft, mixing kissing with sucking....but he didnt cum. i was wayy too tired to keep going my jaw really tired lol. but im just wondering how long on average does it take to cum from head? im not sure what im doing wrong....any tips would be appreciated.

[Sn0man]

Well, it usually takes alot longer than 4 minutes. I don't think oral is intended to get someone off, though granted it can. It's more of a foreplay thing than anything. If you're trying to get him off be prepared to do that for at least 15 mins or so...

[Sherlock]

Ah SnOman......I know you remember the old days!! At 16 or 17, oral is like - foreplay, sex, and scoring the winning touch down wrapped into one experience! But you're right about it taking longer than 4 mins. My first couple rounds at oral at that age left the poor girl with a very strong jaw!

 

If you really want to freak the young guy out.... I recommend the "Pepper Grinder" Technique.

 

I agree with the s-man about it usually only being foreplay though. You'll eventually lean this after a few more jaw aches!!

[Sn0man]

lol sherlock!

[goddess23]

whats the pepper grinder technique?? wait is this self explanitory lol? well still explain that one

[Sherlock]

Have you ever been to a nice restaurant where the waiter uses the big wooden pepper cracker to give you a variety of freshly grinded peppercorns onto your meal?

 

If you have, think about the physical motion used to grind out those naughty little peppercorns.

 

Does this help or should I continue?

[Sn0man]

I haven't ever heard of or tried the pepper grinder technique, but I know that if you're trying to get him off and thats the purpose of the whole oral episode...what works best is to literally 'suck'. hard too.

[nexus532]

Yeah, it takes ahwile to reach ejaculation when getting oral. I guess for me when a girl has a kind of dry mouth it sucks, no pun intended. So make sure you don't have a dry mouth. I guess you could chew gum for a soild few weeks and try to stregthin your jaws.

[SPark]

Just wanted to clarify that there must be 2 Goddesses in the house...maybe I`ll change my user name....this woman sounds like a true goddess and a caring girlfriend!

 

And of course I`m ALL ears on this topic!! C`mon guys, tell us what you *really* think...and feel...about oral action!!!

[goddess23]

thanks everyone! and yeah, i would love to hear what you guys think about it! is it amazing, or just foreplay to you?

[Aksinia]

It usually takes my boyfriend 5-10 minutes to orgasm from oral sex, it depends on whether or not we're going to have intercourse (which, in turn, depends on whether or not I'm on my period, lol). I would recommend using your hands along with your mouth (in the same kinds of motions that he would use when masturbating) and also occasionally play with his balls VERY gently. Good luck

[Day_Walker]

I would advise learning more about going down on a guy and the techniques you should employ. There are only certain movements that are going to get a guy to cum. The best thing to do is to find where the guy is question is the most sensitive and use techniques that will stimulate that area. My friends and I have pretty much come to a concensus, so I dont know if this will be helpful for you, but licking doesnt really do a damn thing, its more teasing than pleasure. Now once again this is from my friends and I but movement you want to practice is on is what to do with the penis when it is in your mouth, thats will get him to cum, while licking will not.

[evidica]

well, one thing i can tell ya not to do is let your teeth touch anywhere, at least in the beginning, that will scare the dude. Also stay away from the very tip top where the urethra ends. It can get agitated after a bit. Most guys have a "g-spot" on the underside like an inch below the head. You will know when you find it. If ya can deepthroat, that feels good for him, just dont gag yourself into puking, that will end it all. THats all my input for now

[Al.Domi]

I'd dispute that a little. My girlfriend just started going down on me (and of course I'm polite enough to return the favor, but that's off topic), and one of the things she did was find that spot mentioned by evidica, and nibble it slightly.

 

the keyword being slightly, it's really easy to hurt.

[ilovemusicx]

Can someone explain the Pepper Grinder a bit more please?! And also is ther any way to get the guy to cum quickly?? Im like getting with this goreous guy who i really like but its kinda putting me under pressure to be good for him!! Hes had loads of blow jobs in the past so hes experienced in that area but im not!! Ive given it to him once already but he didnt cum and I had no idea what I was doing!! Oh and with the whole balls thing... im scared to touch them and go there!! Haha!! Help and advice pleaseee

[Zampotne]

There's been lots of questions about this lately. I posted this on another thread-- might be useful:

 

"Hmm.. this is going to be hard to describe, and also hard to not be too graphic. I want to answer though, because I've had years of practice- and it would have been nice to have all this info up front rather than trial and error.

 

For one thing, you need to have A LOT of saliva. The more, the better. Don't be afraid. If it's running down his penis and onto his balls that only means you are doing it right. Be very firm. I use one hand (closest to the base of his penis) and go up and down (speed/intensity varies depending on what he likes/how close he is to finishing). I make slight twisting motions with my hand-- not every time but frequently. Sometimes I concentrate more on moving my toungue around the tip of his penis while going up and down-- sometimes I concentrate on sucking a little harder or throating it deeper. As others have said, play with his balls a little. If he seems like he's getting close and you want to prolong him/tease him (which is beneficial because when he does come, it will be more intense and he'll love you more for it) stop and rub his penis on your breasts/nipples. Guys love this, plus hey- we should get some pleasure too, and it's nice to stop and take a breath. Also, I get very into it and often grab my bf's hand and put his fingers inside me or on my breasts- only because I'm into it, but he says this turns him on as well. Last but not least, when he's close/coming, shove it down your throat as far as you can. I've found guys love this- plus if he has bad tasting semen, it'll shoot right down your throat and you won't have to taste it.

(As an added note, I had an ex that used to like it when I let it drip out of my mouth a little bit afterward, but this isn't for all people)

 

Any other suggestions I didn't think of girls??"

 

Other people also mentioned sucking on his balls too which I had forgotten--- gently of course!!

 

Good luck.

[swtbtrflydreams]

Yes u almost have to treat the balls like they were eggs. Dont wanna hurt those lil things lol

[Zampotne]

Yes u almost have to treat the balls like they were eggs. Dont wanna hurt those lil things lol

 

Yeah for such manly men, they are fragile.

 

A little tug won't hurt them though.

[Undefined]

Don't put his whole penis in your mouth straight away.. take some minutes to lick around it --- especially underneath- this may cut a couple of minutes off for you honey.. and he'll love it xx my boyfriend can go maybe 5 minutes... but yes sometimes it does ache my jaw- but i use my hand as well xx all the best xx

[Masu16]

It's weird...I can cum faster masturbating than when my gf does oral or a hj. It took about a half hour with her doing it. I have to say do something good with the balls. They are sensitive, which is very good or very very bad haha.

[Day_Walker]

Guys like different things so you need to get a feeling for what he likes. Oral sex can last up to 20 minutes, 4 minutes is definitely on the low end of the spectrum.

[Robinson]

hey everyone. ok i gave my bf oral a couple days ago for the second time. the first time was about 6 months ago (we broke up and are now back together). anyways...this tiem i probably did it for about....4 minutes? and i thought i was using alot of different movements, licking the tip, up and down the shaft, mixing kissing with sucking....but he didnt cum. i was wayy too tired to keep going my jaw really tired lol. but im just wondering how long on average does it take to cum from head? im not sure what im doing wrong....any tips would be appreciated.

 

There are a lot of men that take AGES to reach orgasm when receiving oral, I'm surely one of them, which doesn't mean I don't love it like hell. It's not about performance then, although there is surely things you can work on not only to make him more excited but also to avoid getting the jaw pain you refer. It's more about touch than intensity i think, and there is a lot you can still do while you rest your jaw muscles in between.

[anna_k]

Ok, I am no expert nor do I want to come accross as arrogant however, I've been told I'm good at it and this is pretty much what I know:

 

1. If he's REALLY in the mood-it doesn't take long at all. A few minutes and he's gone.

2. Sometimes it can take forever, even on a guy who has previously finished at the 5 minutes mark. I think the important thing is to enjoy and get into it because then he can get into it. Someone said that its more touch that intensity-that's very true. Use your hand and give your jaw a break if its going for ages.

3. I always put the whole thing when its soft. Then it gradually gets harder. I also use the twisting motion with my hands but I find the part that seems to make him feel really good is when I reach the tip of the penis I tighten my grips then take my hand and mouth off completely. I don't know if that makes sense. I guess its similar to him entering you then withdrawing all the way out. Apparently it's nice.

4. Also nice is wrapping your tongue around it in a swirling kind of movement. It's really hard to explain. Imagine you want to wrap his penis with your tongue. It makes your tongue really tired though. Bad.

5. I think maintaining rhythm is important. I've noticed that when I don't keep good, consistent rhythm the whole event takes me forever.

6. The gag reflex also feels good and so if you can deepthroat-more power to you!

7. A few fun things to try: blindfold him, do it somewhere (safe/private) outdoors, spit on it, biting the nearest part of his thigh, using two hands ('the perpetual vagina'), changing angles (like instead of being in front, move to the side), if he's a visuals guy-use your hand, look at him and say something naughty.....that's what I do when I'm getting tired and need him to come soon. Haha. Hasn't failed me yet!

 

That's all I've got.

 

Have fun.

[cleo_gurl]

When your giving a blow job you should use both your mouth and your hand. Just start out by sucking on the head and get him worked up to his full potental then switch it up using the hand (like your jacking him off) and then go back to sucking on his * * * *. Keep the same pace so if your going a lil fast with your hand make sure when you go back down you are kinda at the same speed. Pay attention to the head. Deep throating is always good too. Every guy is different but this has never failed me and you will get better with practice. It really shouldn't take that long. Watch some porn seriously its a great way to learn stuff.