50sNewbie Posted January 27, 2018 Share Posted January 27, 2018 How do you handle a bossy/bullying brother-in-law? Ostensibly he and my sister moved into my mother's home to take care of her, but since he lost his job several years ago at age 55 (probably due to anger issues) he has not worked. As a result my sister has had to get a job with a long commute, which limits the time she can take care of mom. Although BIL helps in the early mornings, most days she sleeps until a caregiver arrives. They have all their bills paid by my mother. Besides belittling me (and my sister), he tells me what I can do in our family's house of 45 years and tries to handle mother's finances (I changed account passwords but he sees all her mail). My sister defers to him because she is afraid he will lose his temper. I can't just avoid him if I want to see my mother (almost 90 with Alzheimer's). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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