tt1986 Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Just looking for some perspective... I've previously written the story so I won't expand on that too much, basically a 3 month stint with a girl- so not ages but it was a good time - she abruptly halted things in what felt quite a harsh way and it hurt, there were issues that would have only been temporary but thats life I guess. She never actually broke things off, just said she didnt want a rship but still wanted to see me. So over next month we met a couple of times but basically I felt she got increasingly colder and less willing to meet, although she would still chat. My confidence was kinda hit already so I took the hint, and decided maybe I need to walk away. So I've tried to fix myself up abit since then, but a good month and a half passed without contact before I text her happy christmas, and to surprise she responded positively and suggested meeting up when she came back in the new year (shes foreign), so we did at the weekend. An hour before meeting she text me saying she was leaving at a certain time as her flatmate as he was out for hs bday, which annoyed me, but anyway...we met and she asked why I hadn't spoke in so long, I explained I felt those were impressions she was giving, and she said "I always said we were friends who meet but needed time, but you stopped speaking" (although I stand by my feelings I can see her perspective)...but she said she would forget about it. We did stay later than she said before she did leave, but I think it was good and we laughed and got on like before without the physical stuff...she also suggested a few different plans to meet, which is all I wanted her to do before At the end she said sorry about the text before but said the night was enough considering I didn't speak to her in 2 months, but its ok, we are friends. As she'd said about our previous status before I said "maybe something more again in time?" she kinda agreed,whether just to placate I dont know. Then went on about how another woman might not have answered me after so long but has good feelings about me. So I'm not sure where I am left now...atm I am initiating all contact unlike before, its quite difficult, but she seems open to meeting, I'm seeing her this week, then maybe more plans after if all goes well...I don't want to hang on and just be friends forever, but at the same time I get that its not going to go straight back to what it was after this time, so I'm prepared to be patient to an extent. I just don't know if its possible? A situation that I felt was her doing is in her eyes my fault. I don't know if theres any glimmer of hope in building things up again or am I just setting myself up... Any opinions? Link to comment
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