Sera1000 Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 This has become a problem because I've been meeting more guys in real life and just signed up for a speed-dating event. I mostly keep first and second dates light, but if a guy has his heart set on having kids someday I would just be wasting both of our time. Should I just wait until at least a third date? Feeling like I have to bring it up early kind of stresses me out. Thanks! Link to comment
thealchemist Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 No kids is a big one. I would probably disclose that on the first real date. Link to comment
Sera1000 Posted November 29, 2017 Author Share Posted November 29, 2017 Also, suggestions on HOW to bring it up, esp. in a speed dating context, would be appreciated Link to comment
superfan Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 Honestly I would just straight up say: Full disclosure, I don't want children. Link to comment
j.man Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 Speed dating seems kinda tailored to blurting out common and significant deal-breakers. Whole concept seems so awkward to me. Honestly, a simple "Sooo... what would you think if a woman you dated didn't want kids?" would probably do fine. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted November 29, 2017 Share Posted November 29, 2017 Just right out on the very first date, no one on either side of the fence wants their time wasted. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 In the context of sharing other aspects, such as interests, hobbies, work and career goals, I'd also ask, "What are your family goals for the future?" Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 In the context of sharing other aspects, such as interests, hobbies, work and career goals, I'd also ask, "What are your family goals for the future?" I agree with this approach. I think it will help ease into the discussion, instead of blurting it out. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 That's just an introduction. Wait until a real date to discuss this.Also, suggestions on HOW to bring it up, esp. in a speed dating context, would be appreciated Link to comment
catfeeder Posted November 30, 2017 Share Posted November 30, 2017 That's just an introduction. Wait until a real date to discuss this. The whole point of speed meeting is to screen out bad matches, not obfuscate to go on real dates with someone who might BE a bad match. I'd discuss questions that uncover every dealbreaker that I have or that he potentially has. If that ends up amounting to nothing more than and pleasant exchange over coffee, then that's one down, and who knows how many left to go before striking simpatico? Anyone's guess. Link to comment
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