AlexSays Posted November 14, 2017 Share Posted November 14, 2017 I’ve posted before my story of how me and my ex broke up. We dated for 8 months. Known him for over 2 years though and had a good friendship with him prior to dating. Long story short, we had a not-so-healthy relationship. I didn’t trust him and now, he doesn’t trust me. When we started, I found out he was talking to me and his ex. Tried to leave him but he said he’d hurt himself if I did. I stayed, never trusted him fully, despite his attempts and putting him through hell to MAKE him break up with me. I finally stopped trying to get us to break up and let myself fall in love with him and we had reached a happy point. He broke up with me after I did something stupid. I texted him pretending to be his ex (to squash the insecurity that if she came back he would leave. Since I lost my trust to him because of her at the time it felt like the only way to get the trust back was to see how he would react to her coming back) to see if he would fall but he straight up rejected her and told her he loved me and was happy with me. That he wished her well and happiness. When I told him it was me he was devastated and we broke up. I let him go to work on my issues because it was a wake up call that I had some serious insecurity issues to address and work on. I went to therapy for a while and started working on myself. Still am, to this day. Now 2 months later, we are attempting a “friendship”. However this friendship outings always turn into us holding hands, kissing, hugging. He always says I love you before we part. I always say I miss you. We flirt here and there. For the first time last night I turned it sexual but we didn’t have sex (we actually haven’t had sex bc I’m a virgin and I was waiting for our 1yr anniversary which was last night to give it to him) but we messed around. After I felt weird so I became a bit awkward. After like 10mins of silence he reaches for my hand and holds it and we held hands and cuddled for a bit. The unspoken agreement is that if we find someone else it will stop. I asked if he’s seeing/talking to anyone atm and he said he isn’t. But I know he slept with someone after we broke up (he had not had sex for over a year since I made him wait). He and his ex are back to being friends due to what I did as well. Idk how their relationship is now but he said it’s just friends. He is also still talking to the girl he had sex with, but doesn’t actually want anything with her according to him and his social media. Now we both have agreed not to get back together but obviously there’s a strong emotional/physical attachment on both sides and I’m finding it hard to let go. Honestly I want to hear of people’s experiences. I know 9/10 times this usually ends up in heartbreak. I’m obviously more emotionally attached than he is considering I’m the one that messed up in the end but I’d love to hear peoples opinion and maybe get advice on how to keep the feelings out of the way. Link to comment
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