sputnik123 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Hello all, Firstly, let me say that this is a wonderful site as it helps provide a certain level of comfort knowing that there are many caring people out there and others going through similar experiences. Just over a month ago, my ex-gf of 3 years decided she wanted to be on her own for a while and that we were over, for the time being. She had been fairly distant for a few weeks before and it did not come as a major shock, but it still hurt and upset me. Although I say this, there were still plans for the future we had discussed up to that day. When she informed me of the relationship end (via message!!), she said she did not want anything of hers that she left at my flat (quite a considerable amount of clothes etc). I had suspicions that there was someone else involved, but never had any hard evidence of this. We are both single parents and the kids get on great together, which adds to the hurt. For the next week or so I tried to discuss things with her, but to no avail (In hindsight, I know that I shouldn't have done this, but it is what I felt I needed to do at the time, and any time we had fallen out previously, we had talked and sorted it). There were a few texts exchanged in the few days afterwards, but nothing that really leaned towards a reconciliation. I have now not seen her for 3 weeks, since accidentally bumping into her in town (just a brief hello). I then e-mailed her a week ago, to discuss logistics of getting some personal items back from her house and details of car insurance cancellation (she was driving my car). I am yet to have a response to this. She has not uninsured or untaxed the car in the past month (whilst I own the car, I was not driving it). When the break-up happened, I deleted her from Facebook (I couldn't handle what I may see) and she then blocked me on whattsapp. In all honesty, I put so much into the relationship. Whilst I could accept it is finished, even though it hurts immensely (although would prefer to reconcile), I am struggling to come to terms in my head with the coldness of it all, like the time together never happened. There has been no empathy or warmth from her in any communication since the split. We both live in a small town and there are constant reminders of her and our relationship everywhere I go. Is a month of this long enough to know that this is dead in the water? She has always been intensely stubborn and I didn't want to give up if there was any hope. Link to comment
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