Told I was "too much" by therapist?

[mia500]

I am using a text app for therapy and my therapist said "You are going through way too much right now". She was caring and concerned but no one wants to hear that about their life. I feel really offended, even though I got this text 2 days ago. Aren't I supposed to turn to her for the worst of my worst? I'm too shy for therapy in an actual office but I do need someone to talk to. It just concerns me because how am I going to tell her other stories, I feel like I have to take steps back and not share.

[anon1231]

It sounds like your therapist may have been trying to sympathise with you - that you are experiencing a lot for one person and that your feelings are valid.

 

Forgive me if I'm mistaken, do you have more context?

[chitown9]

Your therapist was not saying that you are too much. Your therapist said that you are going through too much. I also think it said to empathize with you. I think that you are reading into this and interpreting what was said in the wrong way. chi

[MissCanuck]

No, your therapist did not say that you are too much.

 

They said that your circumstances are too much, meaning that you are right to feel sad or overwhelmed. I think you very much misunderstood the meaning and intent of that comment, OP.

[DanZee]

Why don't you tell us what you're going through and we can give you some advice.

[pippy longstocking]

I agree with everyone else ...she was simply attempting to empathise and actually acknowledge your despair and the fact that you are indeed going through a lot . No need to be offended .

[SherrySher]

It was bad wording, hun, honestly.

 

I understand what you mean though, even if she/he meant that it was too much, it still doesn't instill a lot of confidence in a person. Though I do feel that it was only a poor choice of words and they meant no harm.

 

If you don't feel comfortable though, you can always talk with someone else. That's the one good thing with therapy, is that there are more than one option and sometimes the first few people don't fit.

 

I hope you find someone whom you feel comfortable with.

[abitbroken]

I think you should see a therapist in person because using an app has proved that there is just too much room for misinterpretation. That's what i'd do.

I don't think the response was unprofessional at all - i just think that you need in person communication.

[rosephase]

If you are likely to take words to mean the worst possible thing then therapy by text isn't likely to help you. It's hard to do therapy face to face. It's much easier to text. But working on yourself is hard. Changing your patterns is hard. I think you shouldn't waste your time (and emotional reactions) on this half step. Find someone you can talk to. Someone you can look in the eye. Maybe therapy by text can help some people but it's not right for you.