idontknowww Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 Hello all! (Sorry this will be kind of long) So my on-off relationship finally ended about 7 months ago. Even though I've been doing pretty well in life, I was still SUPER hung up on my ex. In my effort to move on, I got into casual dating about 3 months ago and started hanging with this one guy in particular. I haven't dated properly in a while and with the whole hook-up culture going on, I could use some advice from people more experienced than me. Especially any advice from men will be appreciated. Here's a summary on this guy: Very well educated, has a solid career going, 30 years old. Always initiates contact, suggests dates, takes me out, ALWAYS picks up the tab. Always follows up on plans - never cancelled a single date. Compliments me and tells me how much he likes me. Explicitly says that we should date. When I hesitated he says "We can make it work." I said I need to think about it. When I said I was looking for something serious and long-term, he said he's open to that. All into kisses, hugs, PDA, barely checks his phone when he's with me and remembers everything I say. The biggest surprise has been that i'm moving to a different city in few weeks, and when I told him that.. He said that we can still make it work because it's only 2.5 hours away. He says he is willing to come down there to see me and can have me over at his place when I come to visit. I have expressed some concerns to him that this relationship might have a bleak future because of the distance n all, and he says we'll never know until we at least give it a shot - If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I've been seeing him for 3 months with no sex being in the picture, until last night when I finally started to feel like I could trust him. He hasn't texted me since then, but it's only been 11 hours so I need to give it more time lol. Some concerns: He told me that he is still on dating apps - which I understand because technically we're not exclusive. He's still into partying and regularly goes out to party with friends. This is a concern only because I am over the whole party phase now. I'm 27. I haven't met any of his friends yet - when I told him that, he said we could go out meet his friends this Friday night. But why didn't he introduce me to them himself? I'm really starting to move on from my ex now, but I just feel like i'm being so paranoid with any new prospects because of my brutal break up and having a hard time trusting now. I feel like all men are after only one thing. And maybe this guy has been all this nice to me because I wasn't giving in.. and I'm afraid now he won't text me because he got what he wanted. Is it normal to feel this way? From what I mentioned, is he genuinely interested in a real relationship?? I just don't want to be played again... Link to comment
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