cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Why does this young man consistently lie about his relationship with this girl? He admitted that they "talk" and sex is included. Ive tried on several occasions to end it but he will not allow me. When he first admitted about this girl he said she chased him, cannot see himself waking up to her every morning when i asked if he loves her and has posted no pic of them on social media... yet. It has been a year and half and still says i am making this relationship up in my head. Ive since blocked him. Why cannot he admit his feelings or relationship? Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 You sound like the man with no name on Game of Thrones. The man with no face likes the girl who is nobody as a sex partner and nothing more. He does not want her in his life other then for that purpose. He has nothing to 'admit' to the girl but he HAS told the girl the truth but she refuses to listen. Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 I know for a fact they talk daily and she believes them to be married with children one day. I would be the one he is telling, not her. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 I know for a fact they talk daily and she believes them to be married with children one day. I would be the one he is telling, not her. So: To talk daily means that he is keen to keep the sex coming so he strings the girl along. He has told the girl that the relationship is in her head so she should listen to that as being the truth and move on in head and heart. Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 He claims they are just friends and tells me he loves me but no doubt she is getting same "line." Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 Nooo he tells me it is in my head Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 He claims they are just friends and tells me he loves me but no doubt she is getting same "line." Okay, its becoming clearer now: You are the primary partner and he is talking to another girl and having sex with her as well... is that it? Your explanation is very convoluted. Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 Obviously i am not primary partner. Yes that is correct Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Obviously i am not primary partner. Yes that is correct Good grief... No, it's not "obvious" at all... yet another confusing way to explain yourself. The only thing that's clear is that you've blocked him so good... now just block him from your mind and get on with your life. Link to comment
j.man Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Wait what? So your issue wasn't that he was meeting up with her and bending her over but that he won't admit he loves her while he's doing it? Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Wait what? So your issue wasn't that he was meeting up with her and bending her over but that he won't admit he loves her while he's doing it? you're on a roll today. . . Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 Wait what? So your issue wasn't that he was meeting up with her and bending her over but that he won't admit he loves her while he's doing it? Exactly. Why cannot he admit this. He tells me i shouldnt worry about some "chic!" Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 you're on a roll today. . . Yeah well thanks Link to comment
j.man Posted August 7, 2017 Share Posted August 7, 2017 Exactly. Why cannot he admit this. He tells me i shouldnt worry about some "chic!"Well, first of all, and putting it mildly, that's a pretty odd spot to draw a line in the sand. Second, if he's been actively trying to get with you or succeeding in doing so while engaging with the other woman, I'd venture to say he's probably right and he simply enjoys having her as a dish. I mean even if he did really love her, what difference would it make if he did admit it to you? I'm doubting you'd throw your hands up in relief and be all like, "Finally! Now put your shoes on. We're going to Olive Garden." Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 7, 2017 Author Share Posted August 7, 2017 Hes been actively trying to keep me. He chased me. I guess he is trying to keep me as side Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 "Finally! Now put your shoes on. We're going to Olive Garden." lolzzz ^^^ Op: You've done the right thing by blocking him... he's a player who is having sex with this girl... surely you don't want to be a part of his harem. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 Hes been actively trying to keep me. He chased me. I guess he is trying to keep me as side Looks like you answered your own question. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 Why cannot he admit his feelings or relationship? Because he can have two for the price of one. Since this has been going on for a year and a half without experiencing any consequences, he knows he has nothing lose. Why not place a higher price tag on yourself, and up your value. You have the power to do this... Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 Why have you stuck around???? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 I really havent. What does that mean? Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 8, 2017 Author Share Posted August 8, 2017 Ive backed off considerably Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 8, 2017 Share Posted August 8, 2017 Stop being so evasive. How much contact do you have? Link to comment
cat0312 Posted August 8, 2017 Author Share Posted August 8, 2017 We speak maybe once every few weeks. Havent see him in months Link to comment
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