Am I overthinking this?

[Marshmellow12]

This sounds petty. I know. But my boss (I'm a teacher) has always seemed to show favoritism really badly. I'm very quiet and don't socialize much at work. But for the most part I feel well liked. I've never thought I was one of my bosses favorites and she is often socializing and joking with the other teachers and never says a word to me. She gives me good scores when she comes and watches me teach. So I know it's not that I'm a bad teacher. But what is really making me think she doesn't like me is that she is friends with all the other teachers on Facebook, but won't accept my friend request. I thought maybe she didn't get it so I canceled and resent it. Weeks later and still nothing. And she is always on Facebook "liking" all the other teachers' posts.

[nutbrownhare]

I wouldn't give it a second thought. If you're getting good ratings and get on well with your students, that's all you need to worry about...

[happyfrank]

Message her on facebook. Maybe she didn't notice friend request.

[j.man]

Wait, you want to be friends with your boss on Facebook??

[nutbrownhare]

Wait, you want to be friends with your boss on Facebook??

 

Quite! I used to teach, and I think I'd rather have spent the evening indoors cutting my toenails than socialising with most of my colleagues!

[j.man]

Quite! I used to teach, and I think I'd rather have spent the evening indoors cutting my toenails than socialising with most of my colleagues!

And here I am having considered myself lucky to never have been required or asked to add my employer / boss on facebook.

[RedDress]

I'm not saying that she doesn't like you... but... not everybody is going to like everybody. Shrug.

 

As long as she is able to remain professional at work and it doesn't impact her assessment of your work, I would agree with the others. You know that saying "be careful what you wish for!". It's probably like that. I'm not sure why you would want to open yourself to your boss's Facebook scrutiny or potential for drama.

 

Now if it DOES start to impact your assessments, I would say that you should talk to your superintendent. But it doesn't sound like that's the case.

 

You said yourself that you don't really socialize at work, so to me, it makes perfect sense that you wouldn't socialize outside of work.

 

It's probably for the best

[catfeeder]

She gives you fair reviews, so you have no complaint there. She just doesn't see anything in common with you socially. You admit to not being very social at work, so why would this surprise you?

[Snny]

I've never thought I was one of my bosses favorites and she is often socializing and joking with the other teachers and never says a word to me. She gives me good scores when she comes and watches me teach. So I know it's not that I'm a bad teacher

I used to teach, know many teachers who are fighting for tenure who would LOVE to be in your shoes. I'm really not getting your complaint here. You should feel lucky she's even giving you good scores even if you aren't her "favorite." The job politics played within school districts are terrible that you are best to be under the radar.

 

Bad idea to befriend teachers/principal on Facebook. That's a fast way to lose your teaching job. All it takes is to post something you find "innocent" and someone cry "witch" because of your status and the fact you work with children. Nope, not a good idea.

 

You need to find friends outside of work. Try finding social clubs locally. I use Meetup.