KJL Posted May 22, 2017 Share Posted May 22, 2017 So I've been with my boyfriend for around three years and we were so loved up, soulmates etc in the beginning. Recently things have been rough and I know he's thought about us breaking up and he says we have no intimacy anymore, but I am putting in so much effort all the time, trying to be closer etc and then all he seems to want is space. We hardly have sex anymore and I saw that he was liking slu*ty pictures and following slu*ty girls on instagram a few weeks ago. When I confronted him about it, he said how can I blame him when we haven't been intimate much recently. The thing is, I'm not the one who has lost interest in sex. I dress up for him, I give him what he wants without ever getting anything in return (you all know what I mean!), I haven't changed, but I feel like he has. I also saw that he'd liked loads of this trashy girl's pictures, who he met on a rap shoot he was filming about 6 months ago and even wrote 'so beautiful on one. I was really upset about that, and he did seem to feel really bad about how that made me feel and said he'd never even spoken to her since the shoot, he apologised loads, said he was sorry he made me feel insecure about us etc. But about 2 days after this, I noticed she suddenly made her insta profile private. Seemed a strange coincidence to me. There is also a girl he is friends with - they used to date ages ago and I've never met her because she lives in America. I've already been insecure about this girl in the past because I saw he was liking every single picture of her that she posted and I asked him about her. He said I have nothing to worry about, that they're just friends, that she's a wonderful person and that I would really like her if I met her. Anyway, I haven't seen him liking very much of her stuff recently on FB so I thought, that's nice, he's respecting my feelings. However, then I had a look on Instagram after all this recent slu*ty girl loving, and he's been liking her pics there instead, probably not thinking that I would ever see it on there. I feel really betrayed and it seems really sneaky of him. She was over in London recently and he went to see her, spent two days with her, barely contacted me. With all this stuff, and his changing attitude towards me, I just don't know what to do anymore. He's obviously hiding things from me and it feels so awful and dishonest. Sometimes things are so great with us, but I don't know if I can trust him anymore. I feel really undesirable, and like a really sh*t person. I'm obviously not giving him what he wants at all. I feel like he's sitting there looking at other women all day and probably getting himself off over them - he's at home all day, so he has plenty of opportunity to just be doing that and if he is, no wonder he has no time or energy for me sexually. I just don't know what to do. I can't seem to get past it. I know it sounds really dramatic of me, but we used to be so close. I used to be everything to him and he's just trampled all over my feelings of self worth and my trust in the strength of our relationship. He seems to be pushing me away slowly but surely, even though he denies that he's doing that. I'm going mad with anxiety all the time, and trying so hard not to let him see that in case it reinforces his idea that I'm some kind of clingy, jealous psycho now. We've talked about the slu*ty girls, but I haven't dared to bring up this friend of his in any detail and it keeps niggling away in my mind. Please give me some perspective someone - are guys just like this these days? I was in a relationship for ten years prior to this one and I never had any cause to worry in that one. Maybe I'm just out of touch Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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