Cmae1993 Posted April 18, 2017 Share Posted April 18, 2017 My ex and I broke up September 2015. And didn't speak at all for 4 months. Then one day last year around this time I started thinking about him and he texted me. And we've been talking and hanging out every since then. The first time after the break up and not speaking we hung out and had sex. And we both still remember it. Because we both got this crazy emotional feeling while we was having sex. It was a feeling that we just couldn't explain, and both of us hadn't ever experienced the feeling. After that he had told me that he feels like there is a reason we randomly started talking again. And we both felt like something was keeping us tied together. Because we didn't have no reason to start talking but we did. We both said that we wished that we would have just fixed our relationship and stayed together. Because we both regretted breaking up. However he is in a relationship and has a baby. We still continued to talk and hangout but nothing sexual. We have talked a few times about being friends and seeing where things went. Him and his gf was having some problems and he said he was happy. So he told me that he was going to leave her. I told him not to make any fast decisions about it because I didn't want him to regret it. I told him to take his time and do what was best for him. He told me to not wait for him that if I wanted to be with someone else I could because he didn't want me to feel trapped. We never said that we would forsure get back together, we always said stuff like "if we get back together" Then as months went on we both had agreed that we are only friends and that us getting back together wasn't a 100% guarantee. That we just had to take it one day at a time. Because either one of us could change our mind about being together. We still told each other we missed each other and that we loved each other. And didn't really talk about being in a relationship together. He has helped me in an way that he can since we started talking again. There was a few times that we had decided that we should stop talking. Well that didn't work because we both just missed each other bad. So now we are still talking and friends but the thing is he just got engaged a few days ago. And yesterday I had told him that since he was now engaged that we could no longer talk anymore. I was very hurt and mad because I forgot our agreement that at anytime one of us could change our minds. So after telling him we should stop talking he then called me and we spent like 7 hours on the phone! He was saying that the reason he purposed was that things between him and his gf in the past month was going good and that he didn't really have a reason to leave because he didn't want to leave his baby without a good reason. He said he didn't want to be the type of "dad" who leaves their kids for another person. And that with him having a kid with his gf he just needed to make the most of their relationship because of their kid, and that even tho he's engaged nothing is forsure between them and that for now he sees it as if they work out they do if not then they don't. Which I understand because I have a 5 year old daughter and her dad left us for another girl. He continued to say that another reason he changed his mind about leaving her is because she would make a lot of drama and he didn't want me to have to deal with baby mom drama and stay overwhelmed. When we was together we went through a lot of drama with my daughter's dad. He also said that he didn't want us to get back together and things be great for a few month and then fall apart. Like it has in the past. He said that he was scared of us getting back together and I decide that he's not what I really want and that I change my mind and just want to be friends and nothing more. Because to him he says my life is going pretty great and that I'm doing every thing I've always talked about doing and I'm chasing my dreams and at the same time he knows I'm not interested in relationships right now. He said that he wanted us to remain close friends and talk and hangout and that maybe later on there could be a possibility that we end up together or maybe we won't that it would be whatever fate decides for us. Because we both still feel like something is tying us together because if we wanted to we could have never started talking again. And we both feel like if we was to stop talking it would make us feel like we lost something special and we just don't wanna let go. Is that normal for both us to feel this way ? So my question is. Has anyone ever been friends with their ex and gotten back together or your ex became your best friend and also does everything he said make since to you? And should I remain friends with him? Link to comment
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