Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 I've recently "ended " a 2.5 year relationship with my girlfriend she joined the army and was away for basic training I missed her ALOT wrote her everyday and she recently came back home from AIT but while she was away I noticed her attitude towards me shifted (I don't know what they do in the army but is it normal for people to change ?... ) she started using a excuse of "stress " as to why. She didn't have time to talk to me... she told me she wanted to take a break and during our little breakup I found out that the whole time she was messing around with another female while in training ... now that she's back she treats me totally different before she left she promised she wasn't going to cheat or to hurt me .... there's a lot of confusion in this situation and I don't know whether to move on or to try Link to comment
Keyman Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 She cheated. For all the effort you put into keeping in touch, she needed to have someone close and found someone. Now things are different. To be honest, I would move on. She has cheated once, that doesn't mean she won't again should she be posted somewhere. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 How did you find this out? Is she bi or is this a same sex relationship? In any case the important thing is she wants space, and that is usually a sign that it's over. she told me she wanted to take a break. I found out that the whole time she was messing around with another female while in training. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Where is the confusion, she cheated on you. Link to comment
Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 She still contacts comes to see me but is messing with this girl that's the confusion Link to comment
Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 My friend contacted me and showed me a video and pictures of her kissing and with this other girl, same sex relationship Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Sorry this happened. Clearly she thought she would just weasel out of the relationship with the stress and space excuse rather than admit to finding another. Yeah, block and delete her and go no contact.My friend contacted me and showed me a video and pictures of her kissing and with this other girl, same sex relationship Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 She still contacts comes to see me but is messing with this girl that's the confusion You need to block her and tell her to stay out of your life. She has cheated on and is now continuing to disrespect you. Please do not allow someone to treat you as a sidepiece. Link to comment
Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 after almost 3 years I would've expected some loyalty from her ....the way things are ending is very confusing and unexplainable ..I went out my way sending care packages and everything Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Well this bodes well for you, but not for her. It indicates that you have the capacity to be a wonderful partner and you will find someone more deserving of this. ..I went out my way sending care packages and everything Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Well this bodes well for you, but not for her. It indicates that you have the capacity to be a wonderful partner and you will find someone more deserving of this. This is really awful of her, and she is still disrespecting you. You need to be done with this. Why are you still communicating? People like this, do not usually change overnight. I think that if you reflect back, you can recall other incidents of selfishness and betrayal? Link to comment
Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 This is really awful of her, and she is still disrespecting you. You need to be done with this. Why are you still communicating? People like this, do not usually change overnight. I think that if you reflect back, you can recall other incidents of selfishness and betrayal? I ask myself everyday why I continue to reply to messages and accept apologies I guess I allowed this person to hurt me a lot and I guess she got accustomed to manipulating me .... it is selfish of her & she doesn't get it Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Yes. But, YOU are allowing it. Of course she knows, but doesn't care, because you are allowing her to walk all over you. If you blocked her, then you wouldn't have to deal with it. Link to comment
Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 Yes. But, YOU are allowing it. Of course she knows, but doesn't care, because you are allowing her to walk all over you. If you blocked her, then you wouldn't have to deal with it. It's really hard when somebody u thought cared about u and respected u just leaves you and expects u to be ok I didn't do anything to deserve this Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 You didn't deserve it. You deserve much better. Why are you continuing contact when you know the truth? She does not value you, but you should be valuing yourself! You are allowing yourself to be played. You need to focus on the present. She is two riming you with someone else. She is lying to you. She does not respect you. LOOK AT HER ACTIONS, ONLY!!!!! Link to comment
Kay1227 Posted March 31, 2017 Author Share Posted March 31, 2017 She cannot have her cake and eat it too !! People like her find it easy to make themselves happy on any extent even if it means disregarding the feelings of others ... And my heart aches for anybody who is going through the same thing I am Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 31, 2017 Share Posted March 31, 2017 Time to block her! Time and NC are your only healers. Link to comment
Whocares479 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 She cannot have her cake and eat it too !! People like her find it easy to make themselves happy on any extent even if it means disregarding the feelings of others ... And my heart aches for anybody who is going through the same thing I am Seriously!! Where is your self respect? If you don't respect yourself. Then no one else would or ever will. You can't be at her every beck and call and expect her to change. Its not gonna happen. Your gonna wake up in a few months from now and be like "Awe man I could of been moved on". The change starts with YOU. Link to comment
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