Jordan111 Posted February 20, 2017 Share Posted February 20, 2017 Hey people, I would really like to know how people think about this situation I've been seeing this girl for the past few 2-3 months. We text all day and after work, we go out for dinner or dessert nearly every night. After about a month, i told her i really liked her and I wanted her to commit to a relationship. She was always hesitant from the outset. She told me she wasn't sure because it was moving too fast for her, the age gap She's 24 (13 years difference) and also I pretty much broke up with a girl to be with her which she had bad experience with. Anyway, during our time together I told her that I'm looking for someone to marry which sounds too full on in retrospect but i just wanted to let her know I'm not playing around - I wanted to see how things go with us rather than a fling. However, nothing really changed despite my feelings toward her and her undecidedness. It probably got better...we held hands, kissed, she stayed over acted like my girlfriend. She was really sweet, caring and thoughtful. She introduced me to her family. Then happened. I went away to the gold coast for the weekend and things were great just prior. I receive a text messaging while I was away and tells she can't commit right now. Of course, i was pretty upset/angry and for the next 24 hours I was said everything you could imagine I'd say to change her mind. I asked her if its someone else or whether she is not really into me which she denied. She said she cared and is really into me but there is a difference between liking someone and committing to them. She thinks if she does commit, it means she will be with me forever she's not ready and it would be too selfish for her to wait. So she needed space and time to think. She said she only wanted to be friends now which i stupidly agreed. Overall, I've been quite good - ever since she told me she wanted space i haven't contacted her and its been overly a week. I don't think I'm ever gonna contact her anymore until she reaches out for me which hurts a lot. She definitely knows now i feel. Im sill feeling really and confused. Does needing space and time because she can't commit right now really mean its over and i should just move on? Thanks Link to comment
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