jessiejl Posted November 23, 2016 Share Posted November 23, 2016 I posted on here a few times regarding my ex boyfriend contacting me again. I explained how I was confused, I didn’t know what he wanted, I saw his Tinder profile, and just various other things that made me question his motives. Why was he reaching out to me? Does he just want a FWB? Does he just want a plain old friendship? Does he want me back? I kept asking for advice and just didn’t like what I heard. Don’t get me wrong, everyone gave me great advice but it was always that my ex was only coming back because he wanted to hook up or that I should just forget about him and move on. In other circumstances that would have been easier to do, but as I’ve mentioned previously, it’s hard to move on from someone that you could really see yourself with. And somehow I knew in my gut and heart that there was more to him coming back into my life. So I waited it out and we finally had the talk. He explained to me his issues, which I won’t get into detail, but we had a nice long talk about what we need to do differently to be able to make a relationship work. He said he was a coward and childish for leaving me, and instead of wanting to communicate with me about the problems, he ran. He apologized over and over. I also brought up the Tinder profile and he said it was more of an ego trip and he hasn’t been with anyone else since me (which may or may not be true) but I made him show me that he deleted it. I really do feel like I can trust his word and that he won’t hurt me again. He made it clear that even if we were to break up again in the future, which he doesn’t see happening, he doesn’t want it to be for the same reasons it ended last time. We addressed those issues and found a common ground, and we both feel so much better about it. The reason I’m writing about this is because so many people come to these forums asking about what they should do. I love sites like this because most of the time people are right in the advice they give, and it’s a sort of comfort that can help someone get through tough times. But the only problem with that is strangers don’t know the type of relationship you had with someone, or personally know who that person is and what they are like. In no way am I saying to blow off anyone’s advice on this forum, because I do believe it is extremely helpful. Like I said if the relationship I had with my ex was terrible, then I can totally see myself taking your advice and just blowing him off. But it wasn’t and I followed my instincts in letting him back in and now we are back together. In the long run I went with what I felt was right, and that was being patient and understanding. I mean I took someone’s advice and went No Contact when we first broke up, and I could say maybe that worked in a way, because after the 30 days is when he contacted me again. But I believe that everyone should do what they truly want. Listen to what people say, but form your own conclusions. I did take into consideration of what other people told me to do. But in my heart I didn’t feel that was the right thing. If I listened to what someone said and I myself felt that was right, then great! They gave me awesome advice and it worked. I thank each and every one of you who support others and help in any way that you can. I just wanted to share my story in case someone was going through the same thing. Link to comment
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