pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 So I’ve been seeing a great guy for the past two months. We see each other several times a week and text every day. We last went out Tuesday and as I left he said, “I’ll see you this weekend.” I said sure, but I was busy Saturday as my sister would be in town. It’s Friday and we have yet to hash anything out. I texted him this morning saying “TGIF!” and he replied, “I KNOW! I know it’s early in the morning and he's busy, but I’m not sure what to do. I'm not sure if its a lack of clear communication. I, maybe wrongly, assumed that since I was busy saturday, we'd see each other friday. So, do I initiate something or wait to hear from him? To be fair, he's done a majority of the chasing, but I always reciprocate. I have a feeling I’ll hear from him a little later today, but still, I can’t be 100% sure. Especially since we didn't agree on anything concrete. Link to comment
Asb682 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I see no harm in you suggesting something to do this evening, seems like you guys are at a point where you can initiate or suggest a date. Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 I feel like he suggested we see each other this weekend that he follow through? And, that as a very dominant male, he'd suggest something if he wanted to see me. Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Moreover, I feel like it reduces the "chase" for him. Link to comment
Eddy Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 At this point in the relationship it wouldn't seem like a bad idea to ask. Nothing bad can come from that. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 You're playing games. Ask him. Or, go ahead and make plans, as Itsallgrand suggested. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Well whatever you do, I would suggest not getting your heart set on a particular day - like Friday - when the plans haven't been made for that. If you don't feel comfortable or don't want to suggest times to get together, which seems silly to me frankly at two months in, then when he says things like "see ya this weekend!", I'd not pay much mind to it, and go ahead and plan as though those days are still free. Cause they are. And anxiety abolished. Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Well whatever you do, I would suggest not getting your heart set on a particular day - like Friday - when the plans haven't been made for that. If you don't feel comfortable or don't want to suggest times to get together, which seems silly to me frankly at two months in, then when he says things like "see ya this weekend!", I'd not pay much mind to it, and go ahead and plan as though those days are still free. Cause they are. And anxiety abolished. So go ahead and suggest something today as if we never had plans? And I guess, I'm a little nervous of coming accross as pushy now that he was short in his response this morning. Link to comment
Clinton Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Moreover, I feel like it reduces the "chase" for him. You're not a rabbit and he's not a fox. No need to provide a chase. Just ask. Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 I should also mention that last time I saw him, we fooled around a little. So I sort of feel like it's in his court. Or am I totally off the mark? Link to comment
Asb682 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 So go ahead and suggest something today as if we never had plans? And I guess, I'm a little nervous of coming accross as pushy now that he was short in his response this morning. So then just say something like "was wondering if you'd like to get together tonight"? Link to comment
Asb682 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I should also mention that last time I saw him, we fooled around a little. So I sort of feel like it's in his court. Or am I totally off the mark? Was this the first time you fooled around together? Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 To the extent we went to, yes (no actual sex). Taking it slow in that regard. Link to comment
Clinton Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Wait till later in the day. If you haven't heard from him, text him to ask about plans. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I agree with Clinton. And if he can't tonight, you could suggest that you would like to see him on Sunday. Would he like to get together and do X? Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Should I be concerned with his lack of initiation after fooling around? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I think you're worrying too much. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 ^What Holly said. I wouldn't go looking for 'reasons' to worry. Just let things play out. Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Does it look bad if I do suggest tonight. As in, I have no life outside of him? I should have clarified when I saw him, but this wating at the last min may not be the best... Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I would suggest for Sunday. I would assume that he would have plans for this evening. Make alternate plans. Get out with friends! Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 I would suggest for Sunday. I would assume that he would have plans for this evening. Make alternate plans. Get out with friends! I like the idea of Sunday. I'll contact him and ask a little later. Link to comment
pray925 Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 Well, he just asked me if I'm free tonight. Ha-ha, now I'm torn between the advice of Sunday and seeing him tonight. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Personally, I would probably do Sunday, as I would have wanted to have been asked earlier - I know that sounds like game playing. Link to comment
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