Uncertain123 Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 My boyfriend of a few months has been extremely distant and cold the last few days. His mother was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer and I have been giving him his space due to bad news. We were suppose to go to a concert tomorrow night and he just cancelled on me stating that he has to care for his mother. He says he sold the tickets to a co-worker. A friend of mine asked me if I still wanted to go to the concert she could get us tickets. I think she wants to see if he will show up with another girl. I feel like if I do go and find him with another girl I would be crushed. I trusted him completely until a few days ago. Any thoughts . . do I go to the concert or not? Link to comment
weathergirl Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Sure I would go to the concert but not to spy on my boyfriend. I would go because I love live music and concerts are fun, and it's a way to get out of the house while my boyfriend takes care of his mother! Also, do you have any reason to believe he is lying about having to care for his terminally ill mom? Has he lied to you previously? And what's up with your friend wanting to know if he shows up with another girl? What business is it of hers? She sounds like a busy body. Link to comment
BigKK Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Why do you feel the need to go to a concert to hunt for you boyfriend with a recently diagnosed terminally ill mother? YIKES unless he's given you good reason to think so, I'd re-think what kind of company you keep as friends... that just screams insecurities Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Why do you feel the need to go to a concert to hunt for you boyfriend with a recently diagnosed terminally ill mother? YIKES unless he's given you good reason to think so, I'd re-think what kind of company you keep as friends... that just screams insecurities Good point. Did you come this suspicion on your own or is your friend influencing you? I think the diagnosis is a seriously valid reason for a change of behavior. If he's never given to a reason to doubt him I'd steer clear of a friend who had the bright idea to stalk him. Link to comment
Uncertain123 Posted September 10, 2014 Author Share Posted September 10, 2014 I didn't even question it until my friend brought it up. No previous lying that I am aware of. The suggestion of going made me very insecure. Link to comment
Uncertain123 Posted September 10, 2014 Author Share Posted September 10, 2014 The stalking part never even crossed my mind. I feel that if I have to go to the extent of checking up on him the relationship is over. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 The stalking part never even crossed my mind. I feel that if I have to go to the extent of checking up on him the relationship is over. . . having said that it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. Everyone has moments of insecurity and you are certainly allowed yours! Take a deep breath and carry on. If a pattern develops then you have something to be concerned about. Link to comment
Uncertain123 Posted September 10, 2014 Author Share Posted September 10, 2014 Thank you! I really appreciate the good advice!! Link to comment
weathergirl Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 I didn't even question it until my friend brought it up. No previous lying that I am aware of. The suggestion of going made me very insecure. Tell your friend (nicely of course) to mind her own business. He's your boyfriend, not hers. Link to comment
BigKK Posted September 10, 2014 Share Posted September 10, 2014 Thank you! I really appreciate the good advice!! Go to the concert or not, let your boyfriend know you're there for him, and perhaps tell your crazy friend to keep her advice to herself. YEAH let's go to a concert to hunt for your possibly cheating boyfriend, this whole mom bit is probably a big act... it's incredible how someone with a poisoned mind can lead you far far astray, sounds like you realize this, although you still had to write and ask about it! OBVIOUSLY you'd be crushed, but there is no reason for him to be there with another girl. I'd assume your friend has been cheated on. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted September 11, 2014 Share Posted September 11, 2014 The friend set you up because she wants to go to a concert. Given her tactics, it's likely that she has nobody else who would go with her. I'd support BF and keep my distance from the 'friend'. Link to comment
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.