sarahvlad Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 So i broke up with my ex about a month ago and recently he got one of his mates to give me a thoughtful gift, just to cheer me up cause i have bot been myself, due to other things going on in my life. but when i found out it was him i snapped and called told him i had lost all respect for him and that he was keeping tabs on me and that he was a stalker. even though i knew deep down he will never stalk me and was never that kind of person. he even explained to me the whole thing after and i think he was shocked that i will even accusing of such things. was i wrong for snapping at him like that? Link to comment
Cheetarah Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Yes. Why are you even questioning it? Complete overreaction. And rude. Link to comment
twinlakes Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 something similar like this happened to me yes i think you was Link to comment
sarahvlad Posted February 1, 2013 Author Share Posted February 1, 2013 Yup. You did. its like im trying to make him sound bad so i can justify the break up. but reall hes not a bad guy at all. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Well being mean to someone and accusing them of a crime is not the way to go. Link to comment
shessofly Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 yes, way over the top. maybe you should apologize. Link to comment
appies Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Maybe what he was doing a was a little strange but you have to be a little more sensitive than that Link to comment
Loveandlost Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Ok, if I were you I would email a simple message, something along the lines of... hey, I over-reacted the other day and for that I apologize. Please understand that this breakup is hard and I need some time without you in my life to be able to heal and move on. Thank you for the gift but for now I need to deal with this on my own. Link to comment
DN Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Agreed with the others. You owe him an apology but ask him not to do it again. Link to comment
twinlakes Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 Agreed with the others. You owe him an apology but ask him not to do it again. If he explained why he did it you are right she should not have given him a hard time about it like that Link to comment
abitbroken Posted February 1, 2013 Share Posted February 1, 2013 So i broke up with my ex about a month ago and recently he got one of his mates to give me a thoughtful gift, just to cheer me up cause i have bot been myself, due to other things going on in my life. but when i found out it was him i snapped and called told him i had lost all respect for him and that he was keeping tabs on me and that he was a stalker. even though i knew deep down he will never stalk me and was never that kind of person. he even explained to me the whole thing after and i think he was shocked that i will even accusing of such things. was i wrong for snapping at him like that? Hmm....sounds familiar. Like the story on here of a guy here who sent his ex a gift and she accused him of stalking? Anyway, it all depends. If this guy has hounded you and wo't leaveyou alone, i would have done what you did most likely. If you want to apologize, you can, but in some ways, if you don't want anything to do with him,I wouldn't contact him. Heprobably sent you this gift to get a reaction or to get you to call him and it worked. If you do apologize, don't contact him again after that. he needs to respect the breakup if you don't want to be with him. Link to comment
Tom1990 Posted February 2, 2013 Share Posted February 2, 2013 It was a definite overreaction, and definitely apologize if you are sincerely sorry for it. For what it's worth, it is understandable that you snapped at him. Breakups are hard, tempers get hot, and we act irrationally at each other. That's the breakup talking, so to speak. He might not see it that way, though. Link to comment
sarahvlad Posted February 2, 2013 Author Share Posted February 2, 2013 Hmm....sounds familiar. Like the story on here of a guy here who sent his ex a gift and she accused him of stalking? Anyway, it all depends. If this guy has hounded you and wo't leaveyou alone, i would have done what you did most likely. If you want to apologize, you can, but in some ways, if you don't want anything to do with him,I wouldn't contact him. Heprobably sent you this gift to get a reaction or to get you to call him and it worked. If you do apologize, don't contact him again after that. he needs to respect the breakup if you don't want to be with him. I read that before posting this, and realised that I had dont the same reaction to my ex. Seeing it from the guys perspective it's what making feel even worse cause I know my ex ment no harm just like that guy with his ex. Link to comment
sarahvlad Posted February 2, 2013 Author Share Posted February 2, 2013 It was a definite overreaction, and definitely apologize if you are sincerely sorry for it. For what it's worth, it is understandable that you snapped at him. Breakups are hard, tempers get hot, and we act irrationally at each other. That's the breakup talking, so to speak. He might not see it that way, though. He hasn't snapped at me but I'm found all the snapping. I suppose I'm more hurt than I think by the whole thing. But I have kept the gift with me it's here in my room. Does this mean anything? Like about my true feelings? It means I still have feelings cause I never threw it away Link to comment
EssexMan Posted February 3, 2013 Share Posted February 3, 2013 But I have kept the gift with me it's here in my room. Does this mean anything? Like about my true feelings? It means I still have feelings cause I never threw it away It probably just means you don't hate your ex so much that you would throw away a gift he gave you with good, if misplaced, intentions...which is a positive frame of mind for you. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted February 3, 2013 Share Posted February 3, 2013 Thread closed - under review. Link to comment
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