maggieMAE Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I feel like I'm not letting myself heal. Maybe it's natural, but I keep hoping she has a change of heart and comes around. Every call, every text, every ring of the doorbell, I get a little butterfly in my gut and hope it's her. Is it normal? How can I stop this? I've even prayed and meditated on accepting the truth and letting go. All of her junk is in the garbage. I've hidden every gift or reminder. I even rearranged my place in hopes of creating new memories here. And yes, I'm keeping myself busy. I'm all about school/work, working out, friends, and just trying to be happy in general. But nothing keeps my mind from wandering back to her. It's been about a month and a half. Am I at the usual point of recovery after a 3 year relationship that ended badly? Do I need to slap myself every time I think of her? I dunno, at least I can still have a good time and smile, right? And yes, I'm following very strict NC. I've had a few urges to reach out, but then I realized it's a lost cause. I'll have a really good day, with short little 10 minute sad moments in my head here and there throughout where I'll wonder why I'm not good enough. I just feel like crap about myself. This whole situation really ruined my self-image. Link to comment
Mistykitty Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 I'd say its pretty normal I'm only at the three-week mark myself, but those hopes are still going strong...if not getting stronger. Link to comment
maggieMAE Posted October 15, 2012 Author Share Posted October 15, 2012 It's hard. Keep your head up. Hopefully at some point we have a moment of clarity and those hopes fall away. I just really wish she'd realize how good of a gf I was and reach out. But then again I also hope the new girl doesn't hurt her, and vice versa. I wish her nothing but happiness, as crappy as it is to think it's without me. =/ I dunno. So many conflicted feelings, and I'd hate to ignore them. Link to comment
maggieMAE Posted October 16, 2012 Author Share Posted October 16, 2012 (I'm not sure if double-posting is allowed here, so do let me know if not) I'm about to lose my mind. =/ I miss my best friend. She isn't that person anymore. I'm sure if she even did change her mind, I wouldn't recognize her. But I wish she'd miss us. I feel like I've come so far, only to be backpedaling into my emotions. I keep imagining her with her new gf, in the home I decorated, using the things I bought or made with care and love. I was processing this breakup just fine until I found out for certain that there was a new person in her life. I only found out from a very good friend who felt I should know. He didn't realize how much it would destroy me, but perhaps he wanted to make sure I wouldn't go back if she were to come around again. (Since she was quite emotionally abusive, and at times it turned physical). I'm just a mess. My anxiety is horrible. I have horrible, sickening butterflies in my stomach every few minutes and then she pops in my head. I walk around this city a little paranoid that I'll bump into her, or them, since it's such a small city. It's only been a week (or maybe 2? I can't remember anymore) since I found out about her new relationship, so I guess it's normal. Someone help? Link to comment
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.