cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 a bit background info : this girl I sorta feel she likes my boyfriend and my boyfriend is always nice to her..she contacts him EVERYDAY and he always replys and talks back too. so yesterday my boyfriend bought me a ring and popped the question.we are officially engaged.while everyone else says congrats..this girl texted him he goes yes.she said "whaaaat?" he replys"lol" she said "for real?" he said again yes.and she said "you are a d***" what;s this supposed to mean? I hope she's joking.i don't know how my bf really feels about her cuz though he said she's fat and ugly and even personality is out of his consideration, he appears very friendly towards her..and they work together to they spend lots of time together...was he ever flirting with her or gave her wrong idea or led her on etc etc?? having said that he's always sweet to me and always say he would never do anything behind me.. ah I hate that I think so much! LOL Link to comment
Stay_home Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 and she said "you are a d***" Think about this for a second. It means that you've got a good catch, cursed. Congratulations on your engagement. ~ Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 Think about this for a second. It means that you've got a good catch, cursed. Congratulations on your engagement. ~ hmm?? sorry i didnt get you..sacarsm?? Link to comment
TriNegativity Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 Ask him what's been going on between them. Then decide if you can believe his answer. If you can, it's the girl's problem--she may have been misinterpreting his signals and built up something in her head that wasn't there. Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 Ask him what's been going on between them. Then decide if you can believe his answer. If you can, it's the girl's problem--she may have been misinterpreting his signals and built up something in her head that wasn't there. no need to ask him. i've already had some problems with this girl. i basically know what was going on (from what i know,nothing inapproriate happened. and if he really decided not to tell me something,he still wouldnt tell me.) i used to feel they talked to much and he was maybe leading her on. we even had a fight for it once cuz he's sick of me bringing this up multiple times and everything is in my head and in fact nothing is going on..and no he wouldnt stop talking to her a bit cuz he believes neither of them did anything wrong. so anyway..i decided to sit back and relax myself on this. everything was going smoothly..and this feels kind of out of no where. Link to comment
TriNegativity Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 It sounds more like she's trying to flirt with him and he's enjoying the ego boost. If you don't think something's going on, you're probably right to not worry about it--he's yours now anyway. Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 It sounds more like she's trying to flirt with him and he's enjoying the ego boost. If you don't think something's going on, you're probably right to not worry about it--he's yours now anyway. i've never met this kind of (aggrassive?) girl..usually we back off while we still have some dignity,ya know lol i once said to my bf i dont like her. he said she is a real nice girl! but no i still want her out of my life haha Link to comment
Moontiger Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 How old are you guys??? Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 How old are you guys??? the three of us are all in 22-24 range Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 This is the same bf who spends like $600/mo on drugs? Girl, let her have him. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 and she said "you are a d***" I also agree with this. She has a good point. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 Sounds to me like he strung her along and gave her false hope. This, and the previous poster's comments about his drug habit show that this guy may have gotten engaged to you but he will never really be yours. People get engaged and married for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with love and commitment. Many engaged and married people are not at all committed to their partner and they still like to seek a fan club. Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 I also agree with this. She has a good point. so do you also agree that he must have done something inappropriate and led her on? Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 Sounds to me like he strung her along and gave her false hope. . problem is I really dont know if its him,or she is the physcho one..cuz the friends around me all say ignore her she's just crazy Link to comment
Lester Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 You said, "problem is I really dont know if its him,or she is the physcho one" - But you must know! You accepted his proposal to marry. Take a paper and pencil and write down your compatibilities and incompatibilities you have with your fiancée. You said, "..cuz the friends around me all say ignore her she's just crazy" - Careful... friends are just that. They may not want to hurt you. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 Classic scenario of a guy who strings along a woman and then the woman is blamed for "misunderstanding" and being "psycho". Link to comment
Tanzi Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 Sounds to me like he strung her along and gave her false hope. This, and the previous poster's comments about his drug habit show that this guy may have gotten engaged to you but he will never really be yours. People get engaged and married for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with love and commitment. Many engaged and married people are not at all committed to their partner and they still like to seek a fan club. Yep, second this. It never ceases to amaze me (and I've said this countless times) how quickly people seem to get engaged or move in with each other. Link to comment
sidehop Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 problem is I really dont know if its him,or she is the physcho one..cuz the friends around me all say ignore her she's just crazy What other reason would be other than her being jealous? Even then I don't think she would call him such name in response to him being engaged. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 no need to ask him. i've already had some problems with this girl. i basically know what was going on (from what i know,nothing inapproriate happened. and if he really decided not to tell me something,he still wouldnt tell me.) i used to feel they talked to much and he was maybe leading her on. we even had a fight for it once cuz he's sick of me bringing this up multiple times and everything is in my head and in fact nothing is going on..and no he wouldnt stop talking to her a bit cuz he believes neither of them did anything wrong. so anyway..i decided to sit back and relax myself on this. everything was going smoothly..and this feels kind of out of no where. If he continues to be in contact with her unless he has to for his job then that tells you a lot about his values. She's not a friend of his if she's unsupportive of your engagement so there's no need for him to be in contact with her and if he wants to be friends with someone he lead on that's yet another red flag. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 What other reason would be other than her being jealous? Even then I don't think she would call him such name in response to him being engaged. Agree with this. Being called a D*** means to me that he strung this other girl along like he was interested whether it was intentional or not. Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 9, 2011 Author Share Posted November 9, 2011 this girl calls everyone d**k..she calls homeless people d**k and calls my friend c**t cuz she works slow..that's the way she speaks. so everyone here thinks its my bf's fault? my bf doesnt see her after work at all though. it's just she texts him everyday so they contact over phones.honestly if you ask me,i would think she's reading too much. I agree if he wasnt that nice towards her,no trouble would happen. But if she thinks "he talks to me so much and mocks around with me he must be interested" it's a bit naive of her isnt it? Once the three of us were hanging together (me and him were planning on having some drinks afterwork and he invited some other co-workers of his as well however only she made it. so maybe she thought he only invited her and she got misled??) my bf acted like everything but intereted in her.unless he behaves differently when im not there otherwise i believe him. however everyone here replies nagatively..now im thinking if im too naive.. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 She texts him every day and he never responds? Or does he respond every single day even though she apparently hates you? Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted November 10, 2011 Author Share Posted November 10, 2011 She texts him every day and he never responds? Or does he respond every single day even though she apparently hates you? i wouldnt say she hates me..she actually talks to me and appears rather friendly to me. neither does she behave all cutey flirty to my bf (though of course i was there) so at one stage i thought i was thinking to much.. and yes he always replies to her texts. he wouldnt delibrately distance her cuz he thinks they have done nothing wrong and she never made moves on him. at some point i understand his behavior if he's being honest. and if he is innocent but im talking about it over and over..it does get annoying so i rather not bring this up.. Link to comment
Snny Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 But if she thinks "he talks to me so much and mocks around with me he must be interested" it's a bit naive of her isnt it? Now that he's engaged, it isn't appropriate of them texting each other everyday. Whether he meant to or not, he has sent the girl a message that he has taken an interest in her. This girl had another agenda the entire time and was never interested in a friendship to begin with. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 10, 2011 Share Posted November 10, 2011 i wouldnt say she hates me..she actually talks to me and appears rather friendly to me. neither does she behave all cutey flirty to my bf (though of course i was there) so at one stage i thought i was thinking to much.. and yes he always replies to her texts. he wouldnt delibrately distance her cuz he thinks they have done nothing wrong and she never made moves on him. at some point i understand his behavior if he's being honest. and if he is innocent but im talking about it over and over..it does get annoying so i rather not bring this up.. If she were supportive of your relationship the texting would be fine. But now she's not,obviously. So if he continues to text with her more than he absolutely has to in connection with work (does he have to? I bet he doesn't) then he is not being loyal to his commitment to you and to your relationship. And why in the world would either of you want to be in contact with someone with such a trash mouth -and against homeless people? Please. Link to comment
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