NG85 Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 It's a lot harder than I imagined. I met this girl through a mutual friend about 2-3 months ago (Let's call her Sue) and we exchanged numbers and began chatting a bit. Soon thereafter Sue and I went on a couple of dates. On the first date we got a little too drunk and crazy, so we decided to tone it down a bit on the second date. A week later we went out again, but there was just something that was off. I thought this girl was really cute and fun, but I just couldn't see a future with her. She also wanted to move things really fast, asking me to spend the night at her place after 2 dates. Most guys would jump at that chance, but I just kept getting weird vibes and declined. A few days later I gave Sue the "Let's just be friends" speech. I told her she's a sweet girl, but I just wasn't feeling anything. She kept asking me to give it another chance, but I refused. I felt bad, but it wouldn't be fair to myself to go along just to appease this girl. It also wouldn't be fair to her if I was just along for the ride and not really into her. About 3 weeks later Sue invited me to her birthday party, where she and her friends took out a hotel suite, and I decided I'd stay there so I wouldn't have any problems with getting home after a night of drinking. As the night progressed she began getting touchy-feely, then telling me that she thinks we have chemistry and wondering why things didn't work out between us. She also began buying me drink after drink and complimenting me, just absolutely flattering me. About 2 hours later she began pinning me down and making out with me. At first I wasn't kissing back, but being a guy I gave in to my libido and began kissing her back, all while telling her this is just a birthday present (Bad move, I know). So last weekend this girl who's a mutual friend of ours invited me over to her place to play some music. I had met this girl before and thought she was really cute, so I decided it'd be fun to make the trip out and play guitar. The only problem was it's kind of confusing to get to her place, so Sue offered to drive me. She picked me up, and the three of us spent the afternoon together. Sue and I had a good platonic time, and I didn't sense any weird vibes. The three of us then went to see a concert with some friends at a bar. We were all drinking a bunch, but Sue was perfectly fine and kept up the platonic vibe. Later in the night the girl whose house I visited and I began talking a bit. It was a bit hard to read her, but I was flirting with her and she was flirting back. Ever since then she's been blowing up my Facebook with comments and wall posts and "Likes", as well. Maybe I'm looking too much into it, but she's a cool chick and I'm glad I made the trip out. I hung around Sue a bit, as well, and when the drinks broke out she began to get touchy feely. A few hours in she took me away from my group of friends and began making out with me. She once again said that she thought we had great chemistry. She kept asking me why I wouldn't give her a second chance. I gave her multiple reasons, all of which she claimed were BS. Not only did she disregard my opinions in the matter, she also began whispering dirty things in my ear and saying we should go back to her place. I kept refusing, but every time she went to the bar she'd buy me a drink, whether or not I'd want one. But I felt bad and decided to drink them, and got really really drunk. Seeing as I lived far away and had no other place to stay, I agreed. Another bad move. Just use your imagination as to what happened. I've talked to her since, but I haven't seen her since the weekend. I'm trying to keep all our interactions as platonic as possible, but it really irks me that she won't respect my wishes to remain friends. She's a nice girl and I'd like to still be able to hang out with her, but every time we do she ends up trying to hook up with me and buttering me up with drinks and flattery. Imagine if I was doing this to her - I'd be the biggest creep in the bar. I guess I'm 50% to blame for getting myself in these situations, but I'd still like to hang out with her and her friends. They're all fun people and I have a good time with them. What would be the best course of action? Give her a talking to? Not see her anymore? Cut off all contact? Or see her, but keep myself surrounded by other people who can act as a buffer for me? Also, is it a dumb move on my part to have been flirting with our mutual friend at the same place Sue was at? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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