jimbobday Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 Ok so the story is as follows before me and my girlfriend got back together I was on a few dating sites. A few days ago I got sent a mail from a girl I used to talk to on there. This mail included naked photos of her. My girlfriend say this mail and now thinks I've been cheating on her. I explained it was from a girl on a dating site I used to talk to. We are now on the verge of breakup. Can anyone offer any advice? Link to comment
Captain Obvious Posted May 8, 2011 Share Posted May 8, 2011 Learn your lesson, get your profile off a dating site as soon as you begin a relationship Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 8, 2011 Author Share Posted May 8, 2011 I have definitely learnt my lesson and everything has been removed from all dating sites. Any advice on what I do with my girlfriend? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 Ask her to forgive you. All you can do, it's in her hands now. Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 But does it seem like theres some trust issues here? Or is she right in her thinking that there may be something going on? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 Well, why did you two break up to begin with? Was it cheatin? Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 Not per say she thought I was cheating but infact I wasn't and the arguments and neglect from her side got a bit much for me Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 If you broke it off then yes, there very well could be trust issues on her side, she could be afraid at any moment you are going to end it again, especially if you haven't been back together for very long. I Suggust letting her watch you delete your dating profiles. Link to comment
RedDress Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 Sooo... I am going to read between some lines. Please feel free to tell me I'm out of line. You said that you were on a dating site before you got back together. Cool. You were well within your right to be on the dating site if you were broken up - and what you are doing while you are single is none of her business. ... but... I kind of suspect there are trust issues, here. Why was she checking your email in the first place? How long have you and your girlfriend been back together? Is she supposed to believe that you stopped talking to this girl, for say... a month and she sent you naked pics out of the blue? 'Cause I really wouldn't buy that one, either. If that girl sent you naked pictures 3 days ago, you've been talking to her this week. I think the way to restore trust in a relationship is to be 100% honest. Don't try to twist things to what she wants to hear. Be straight with her. If you are innocent, are honest with her and your story makes sense, the truth will set you free. You were within your right to see people while you were single. If she is reasonable, she should eventually come around. Just don't try to hide or twist things because that will make you look guilty... Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 Bugger I have already removed them all. I offered for her to view my emails, facebook, phone etc whenever she wants. Is there anything more I can do. I do want her to move past her trust issues. We have been back together coming up a year now. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 Not really. Although I agree with Red Dress, if you have been back together a year a random girl sending nude pics of herself 'all of a sudden'... just a tad unbelieveable. Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 Ok she did try to contact me a week ago (I told my girlfriend this). I didn't reply and the photos were ones that had been sent in the past. We have never met in Real Life either only done cyber sex. I can understand it being unbelievable. I suppose I just ask for forgiveness and give it time? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 So you have had the photos in your email for some time now? Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 No no they were from a few days ago but the exact same ones as I got sent about a year and a half ago. Not that that makes a lot of difference Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 Sooo why didn't you delete them if you got them a few days ago? Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 They ended up in my junk folder so I hadn't actually seen them yet Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted May 9, 2011 Share Posted May 9, 2011 They ended up in my junk folder so I hadn't actually seen them yet If you haven't seen them yet, how do you know that they're the same pictures which she sent you a year ago? Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 I saw them when my girlfriend pointed them out to me Link to comment
jimbobday Posted May 9, 2011 Author Share Posted May 9, 2011 Looks like the breakup is on its way shes of to her mums tonight and doesn't know how long she will be there Link to comment
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