stevef20 Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Hi all, Only Friday i posted a thread stating what a dark place i was in and that i was considering bringing it all to an end. (i really was that bad) My friends here at ENA posted their advice and thoughts and 1 in particular made me think, not because it was full of sympathy or advice but more because of what he did to get through things, i needed to find something to get me out of the slump and thought that maybe, just maybe this was it. The post talked about pushing his body to the limit by accident and how that made him feel alive when at one point he was so shattered he could barely walk. After thinking about this overnight on Friday i made the decision to go and try a few new things that would get the adrenalin and blood pumping, new hobbies, things to look forward to. Yesterday (saturday) i spent some money, i have booked a course of paragliding lessons, will join a local rock climbing group when it reopens after the bank holiday weekend and have booked a water sports day next weekend for the kids and i to learn how to wakeboard. They are all classified as extreme sports and have a degree of danger attached, but do you know what, i need that right now, i want my heart feeling something other than pain, im really looking forward to all 3 and hope to take 2 of them forward as new hobbies, i know its new but having these to look forward to has made me feel slightly alive again, of course ive thought of my ex lots still and wish she was doing then with me but for the first time in months i have something to look forward to. My friends, people will always say on here to get back into a hobbie, im going 1 step further everyone, i want you to all find a new hobbie and one that gets the heart thumping a little with fear, oh and no age excuses, im 38. Thanks for listening Steve x Link to comment
Tique Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Thanks for the advice I hope you have fun Link to comment
dumpedinshock Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 I'm gonna learn riding motorcycles for the 1st time of my life once i'm done with the damn exams! lol Link to comment
HLamb Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Way to go Steve! We all need to find something to make our hearts thump a little with fear and excitement. Mine is to commit to a new relationship. ha! Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 24, 2011 Author Share Posted April 24, 2011 I'm not getting to excited, ill be a blooming wreck again tomorrow Link to comment
lia86 Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Great advice. After exactly eight months out of BU, I am somewhere around 80-90% recovered from this miserable nightmare. From going through the whole hellacious experience of heartbreak, I can attest to that advice. I don't think it necessarily has to be adrenaline-oriented, but I can definitely see how that aspect would certainly help. Just start doing something you haven't done before that you've always wanted to do that can give you a huge shot of confidence when you start getting better at it. (Oh and wait a little while immediately after the BU... Nothing really helps during the first 1-3 months. Keeping yourself alive at all is the biggest accomplishment when the pain is still fresh.) Link to comment
MakeItCount Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 Steve!! Glad to see you're taking the advice man. Get out, live!! You'll realize there's more to life than your ex. Great to hear buddy. Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 24, 2011 Author Share Posted April 24, 2011 Thanks guys, 1 day at a time eh Link to comment
lozzy1980 Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 wow steve where's this all come from? your good news has made my day and inspired me, thank you xxx Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 24, 2011 Author Share Posted April 24, 2011 lozzy, your good news has made mine xx Link to comment
doyathink Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 How awesome! Enjoy the thrill!! Sounds like amazing fun to me Link to comment
raims Posted April 24, 2011 Share Posted April 24, 2011 I took a scuba diving course right after breakup, it certainly helped to focus on something new. Paragliding sounds awesome, I'm gonna use your idea lol Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 24, 2011 Author Share Posted April 24, 2011 All these great comments guys is fab, lets get out and get them booked Link to comment
twitchyfingers Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 steve, I am so jealous! Those are all things I would love to do, once I get a little $ back in my pocketbook. You have to promise you will post about 'em all. Go, you! Link to comment
O-shen Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 Good on yah mate. There's no way you could do all those 3 things and not feel alive after. I hope they inspire you mate. Link to comment
stevef20 Posted April 25, 2011 Author Share Posted April 25, 2011 Thanks guys, You just try and stop me posting about them As always your support is greatly appreciated. Steve x Link to comment
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