Back together....Starting over

[elan164]

So yesterday i was at the beach with a friend in the lake and the ex comes up behind me and says hi we talked for a bit then i just walked away. i later left the beach in my buddies car and came back in my car cause i felt bad about not saying bye. so as i was walking to the beach from my car i ran in to her and she said lets go back to the beach. went back had fun in the water for a few hours then we talked on the grass and she kept touching me and then kissed me. she asked if i wanted to watch a movie tonight and i said i might be going out of town, and that i would call her if plans changed. she says she really misses me i said the same we hugged and kissed some more and left.

 

 

she phoned me twice after i got home and then i phoned her later to tell her i was coming over. we watched tv and then part of the movie we rented. the was so much sexual tension in the room, she would climb on top of me and try and kiss me i let her a few times and then moved her off of me. this was really hard. she kept doing this throughout the movie. in the end we ditched the movie and things got real hot and heavy, i mean HOT. i slept over and in the morning i said bye she gave me a kiss and said ill call you after work.

 

we both decided last night that we don't know if we really love each other, and that we should just start fresh as if we just started seeing each other and see if we can fall in love again. im just worried that she might think its just easier to be with me than find someone else, so i dont want to make her think im going to be her little doormat whenever she needs some action or company. so my question is should i go out tonight so im not home for when she phones? and if i do go out should i phone her when i get home casue she knows i have caller id and can see whos phoned.

 

im a little mixed up right now about where to go from here

[bzborow1]

IMO...

 

When dealing with women, if you have any doubts about whether you should call her, just leave it. Give her the gift of missing you. You notice how she got more intense when you said you were leaving? Or when you let her kiss you sometimes but not others? 8)

[k33]

Figure out what you want, but don't play her.

[zpivat]

Well, other people wish to have your situation, but they're not lucky enough unfortunately. You, on the other hand, have had the privilege of getting back together withy our ex, so put it to good use. It's ok if you feel awkward now. The key is to take it slowly and build up your relationship from there. Give her yourself piece by piece, bite by bite, not the entire package; at least not yet anyway.

 

Good luck and have fun with her!

[Scout]

Unless you have some serious trust issues with her, or there are other major problems either of you had that haven't at least been addressed, I say go for it. Sounds like a reasonable way to start a new relationship with each other.

[elan164]

Thanks for your advice guys, i guess ill stay home tonight and wait for her call.

[Stephiepoo]

I dunno, I'd say go out with the boys...just because you don't want it too look like your waiting around. I've been told "guys want what they can't have" same for us girls. You said that you are just going to start seeing eachother as if you hadn't before, well I would say to do just that..be busy not excessively busy though..just go out with the boys and call her when u get home if she did call. and make plans for the next day or day after or something. Just because you don't want it to seem like your waiting around for her to call you..but dont do it all the time..just so it looks like you do have a life ya know? I dunno thats just what I'd do if I were in that situation.

[elan164]

ok thats good, thats what my first instinct was. ill stick with that

[Scout]

Come on, she said she's going to call you after work and you said ok. At least take her call. Don't start afresh by playing games. Either it's going to work or its not, you'll know pretty darn soon how serious either one of you is about this. You told her you were open for another try, you're just going to throw a big monkey wrench in this if you aren't even around to take her call. If she does call, why not invite her to go out with and your friends? Make it a group thing where it's more relaxed.

[Satch]

Look buddy, this is simple.

 

If you still care for her and want her as your partner, then work WITH her, not AGAINST her. Don't play petty games.

 

So many people on this board (including me) would give almost anything to be in your position. Just don't stuff it up if you truly want her.

 

Otherwise, tell her that you are not interested and move on.

 

Sorry if I sound a bit worked up in this post, but I am damn jealous of your situation. I'm working to get there too, but it is a long and tiring road.

[bzborow1]

Just keep doing what works! If you think you should wait a day, then wait. Like the one girl said, women want what they can't have. The trick is to play games w/o playing games...if you get what i mean?

[elan164]

im not trying to get anyone worked up, i know im lucky, and i should take advantage of this situation

[Satch]

Good elan164. That is a better attitude.

 

Now, go for it! Make us all proud. And be sure to let us know what happens.

[elan164]

well she phoned we talked, she said that we were invited to so and so birthday on saturday and that we should float down the river that day too. I told her id go to the birthday but that im going down the river this wednesday. she sounded upset but we're not together so i can't make plans around her right? so i said talk to you later and she said ill give you a call tomorrow unless you dont want me to, i said that it was ok.

 

did i mention this girl broke up with me.

 

to make things more interesting my ex ex talked to me yesterday and wants to do something today