harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 How would she know that I have changed a lot and improved a lot and that I have a plan in life and I am the right guy unless she contacts me??? Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 What is your purpose in life? What goals to you have for yourself? How are you going to work on your self-esteem? Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 My mind is going crazy- I seriously dont knw if I have any goals in life - I am getting confused more and more - I have got addicted of her What is your purpose in life? What goals to you have for yourself? How are you going to work on your self-esteem? Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Well that's what you need to focus on first. I wouldn't want anyone back who didn't have himself together. Start working on that first. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 May be you are right - I will work on that - but do girls come back? I feel that they are really headstrong and more strong willed than guys Well that's what you need to focus on first. I wouldn't want anyone back who didn't have himself together. Start working on that first. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Girls never come back. They are from a different species than men and they eat their young. No need to generalize, every situation is different. It's pretty obvious that you are messed up right now and the last thing you need to do is worry about her. You need to get yourself together. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 Sorry to have offended you - I am not just thinking straight - may be I just need some time alone for myself to think and get myself together - Thanks for your advice !!Girls never come back. They are from a different species than men and they eat their young. No need to generalize, every situation is different. It's pretty obvious that you are messed up right now and the last thing you need to do is worry about her. You need to get yourself together. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Honey, you didn't offend me. I'm exaggerating to make a point, which is that even though it's hard try not to worry about her. Worry about you. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 Yes - you are right- I have become more of a sympathy seeker - I think I need to get up and take control of myselfHoney, you didn't offend me. I'm exaggerating to make a point, which is that even though it's hard try not to worry about her. Worry about you. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Are you getting exercise everyday? You need to make sure to do that. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 yes i am trying to - though I miss in between - Have u gone through a break up yourself because you u seem to be a really balanced and mature personAre you getting exercise everyday? You need to make sure to do that. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 I have gone through three. The first took me 7 months to get over; the second three months; the third about a day (I was the dumper though). It's no doubt that you are at the stage where losing love really hurts and I understand it. The sooner you can get yourself moving and active, the easier healing will be. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 Hmm!! did you never think of getting back with your ex after break up?I have gone through three. The first took me 7 months to get over; the second three months; the third about a day (I was the dumper though). It's no doubt that you are at the stage where losing love really hurts and I understand it. The sooner you can get yourself moving and active, the easier healing will be. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Hmm!! did you never think of getting back with your ex after break up? I thought about getting back with the two who left but not about the one I left. I was pretty much done with that. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 Your views make me a little nervous!! Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Your views make me a little nervous!! Sorry, just being honest. But again, don't worry. Focus on you here buddy. I in no way represent your ex. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 29, 2010 Author Share Posted November 29, 2010 Hmmm!! I would really want to meet you someday for all the adviceSorry, just being honest. But again, don't worry. Focus on you here buddy. I in no way represent your ex. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Well that's very kind of you to say and I appreciate it. My advice is to get up now and get some exercise for today. You'll feel accomplished afterwards. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted November 30, 2010 Author Share Posted November 30, 2010 I feel I have messed a lot and my situation is really worse - Is there still a chance that she will come back Link to comment
harsh284 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Share Posted December 1, 2010 I feel I have messed a lot and my situation is really worse - Is there still a chance that she will come backWell that's very kind of you to say and I appreciate it. My advice is to get up now and get some exercise for today. You'll feel accomplished afterwards. Link to comment
thekid55 Posted December 1, 2010 Share Posted December 1, 2010 Not until you start distancing yourself. You may think it's the wrong thing to do but seperation creates interest. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Share Posted December 1, 2010 Not until you start distancing yourself. You may think it's the wrong thing to do but seperation creates interest. But separation for how long? I am ready to wait but for how long - Is there a timeframe - It is already 40 days since we broke up - More separation may result in her forgetting me forever and she might think that I have also moved on and so even if there is some hope she will also move on Link to comment
Bobbadoo Posted December 1, 2010 Share Posted December 1, 2010 But separation for how long? I am ready to wait but for how long - Is there a timeframe - It is already 40 days since we broke up - More separation may result in her forgetting me forever and she might think that I have also moved on and so even if there is some hope she will also move on This is the mistake a lot of people think about when disappearing. They think the ex will forget about them and never talk to them. The ex will not ever forget about you if they spend a significant time of their lives with you so keep that in mind. Now they can MISS you but how can they miss you if you're always there? You want them to miss you because thats when they will be thinking about you and thats your goal. Don't just use this separation to get her back either. Use it to get over her and move on with your life. If you sit around and wait, it will only drive you nuts and not only that, when your ex does contact you to catch up, you will be just as interesting as when you two have broken up and thats a bad thing. Go out and have fun during this time of separation and next thing you know, you will have plenty of options to choose from and it will make you more attractive and pull your ex even closer. Link to comment
harsh284 Posted December 1, 2010 Author Share Posted December 1, 2010 What if she never calls back - Shouldnt I try once to check if she is interested and just because of ego or something not contacting me Link to comment
Bobbadoo Posted December 1, 2010 Share Posted December 1, 2010 Give her 3 - 4 months. If she does not contact you then you can go back in and send a whats up text or something. I would not worry about it. Right now you guys are broken up and the best thing to do is get over it. If you dwell on whether she will contact you or not will only hinder your healing process. Don't think negative thoughts like "oh she will forget about me" or "she will never call me". If you two had something very special then believe that she WILL contact you. Right now I would mainly focus on what you're doing then what she is. Remove her out of your head, pick yourself up and begin to make improvements on yourself. Ya it hurts to do this. A month ago I came to these forums looking for answers to get my ex back and all I got was move on, or forget about her. I did not want to accept it because I did not want to move on but I realized it was the best way to get my ex back. Have I got her back yet? No not yet as the break up is still fairly fresh and I made a few mistakes already set me back a few weeks. Do I believe I can get her back? Of course, since our relationship was full of love. You just to be patient and go through all this pain. You will be even stronger afterwards and when she does contact you she will see it too. So keep that in mind. Do not check up on her it will only show her neediness and it will not make her miss you. Keep this in your mind, she needs you in order to forget you. Link to comment
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