Dominick Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 I'm curious how a woman prefers a guy to ask them if they have a boyfriend. Or is it better to ask if they are single? I've been working on becoming more comfortable talking to women, and I'm wondering, when asking them out, what the best way to find out if they have a boyfriend? Is it best to be direct and just ask? Link to comment
Cheeks18 Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 If they don't have a ring on there finger and they don't say " I have a Boyfriend", you can sort of assume. But if you must ask, I would just ask "are you seeing anyone currently?" Sorry Im not a lady, But I think this will be the answer you get. Link to comment
Atticus90 Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 The girls I know have facebook accounts so I take a check on that before I move forward. If they don't have one, then be straight up. "You seein anyone?" She'll say "no, why", then "Well, I'd like to take you out sometime." BOOM, next girlfriend good luck Link to comment
chai714 Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 It's best to not ask at all because it doesn't really matter. If a woman is attracted to you and wants you bad enough, you can have her. Pay attention to her body language to gauge her interest. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted October 6, 2010 Share Posted October 6, 2010 Ask or you might be waisting your time. I come right out and ask "are you single?" Everyone asks "do you have a boyfriend?" so ask something different. Body language is fine but I had two hanging all over me last week and turns out one was married! I don't play that so she was out!!! I didn't follow my own advice and waisted time on a married woman that shouldn't have been doing what she was doing. Live and learn...... Lost Link to comment
Hikapo Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Ask or you might be waisting your time. I come right out and ask "are you single?" Everyone asks "do you have a boyfriend?" so ask something different. Body language is fine but I had two hanging all over me last week and turns out one was married! I don't play that so she was out!!! I didn't follow my own advice and waisted time on a married woman that shouldn't have been doing what she was doing. Live and learn...... Lost This one. "Are you single" immediately conveys interest and confidence. Make sure when you ask, do it with confidence, don't be shakey or anything. Link to comment
mines Posted October 19, 2010 Share Posted October 19, 2010 First, i would say pay attention to the cues she is sending you. How is the eye contact? Does she seem fully 'present' when you are talking to her? Of course, check out the ring finger but that is NOT obvious. (I am no longer married but I often wear rings that could be perceived as a wedding band......) at some point if you think she might be interested, then just say "would you like to go for a coffee after work? (after you get off, later, tomorrow ie however it fits into the context of things) because coffee can be totally innocent - IF - she does have a bf/SO . .. . . she can say so. Or she can go with you for coffee - because she is interested. You can tell if she has a bf if you talk to her long enough because she will toss it into conversation "we went to the beach last w/e" "we are Cubs fans"'etc, ''we we we'' ''we-speak'' hehe. . . ) If she accepts this coffee 'date' and it seems to feel good being with her during that date - it is a good time to then say "I am not sure what your personal situation is - but I would love to have dinner with you .." at that point she might say "I'm with someone" if so you can just be gracious, be polite and all that. or she will say "sure......"" and there you go yay Link to comment
generaldiscord Posted October 27, 2010 Share Posted October 27, 2010 Clearly the best way to ask is as follows. Setting: vending machine at school/work Characters: A, lovely attractive piece of sunlight that shattered down to earth with laughter like a million tiny perfect bells and a sigh that smells like fresh dewdrops and a grace I can't explain B, a guy. A: aaaarrgg, the vending machine doesn't take pennies!! B: I'll trade you 6 pennies for a nickle. A: 4. B: 5. A: done. B: speaking of pennies, are you seeing anybody? Link to comment
cursedgirl Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 speaking of pennies, are you seeing anybody..wow..that's sounds so cheesy for me..haha if you ask "are you seeing anyone" i'd take it as "you are interested in me",if that's what you wanna avoid.but i dont mind. or you can talk about general life like "how was ur weekend? did u do anything fun? or did u spend it with bf?" i think it never hurts to ask. i personally dont talk about my bf to other people. if i watched movies with my bf i'd just tell people "i watched movies".so it's not good guessing from her language. body language may work but you cant be sure. if she doesnt touch you,doesnt mean she must be taken.vice-versa. Link to comment
MD Geist Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 I usually look at facebook or myspace first then if that doesn't work you can purposly say such a thing in a conversation like "Your husband or boyfriend should check this out" and naturally she is going to respond. Link to comment
easyguy Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 I have never asked. If you are talking to her in person, be in tune with her body language (like the poster mines said). Does she seem involved in the conversation and openly sharing information, or is she closed off and trying to skeet by with saying as little as possible? When you are flirting with her with eye contact, is she reciprocating? And of course, when you converse with her and be in her company enough, anyone she is seeing will come up at some point, certainly if it's a serious relationship. When she is asked to reveal information, and you are a guy and she is a girl, and you are making it clear that you are intrigued by her, it will most likely be known at some point. Both just with the flow of conversation, and as a defense mechanism. Link to comment
eraseme Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 I'm curious how a woman prefers a guy to ask them if they have a boyfriend. Or is it better to ask if they are single? I've been working on becoming more comfortable talking to women, and I'm wondering, when asking them out, what the best way to find out if they have a boyfriend? Is it best to be direct and just ask? Usually women let a guy know through body language and flirting if they're single. Also, women with a boyfriend will MENTION they have a boyfriend. Some take a bit longer to do it (that is a few minutes longer) because they like the attention, but they will do it. Link to comment
bostonbruins44 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Usually women let a guy know through body language and flirting if they're single. Also, women with a boyfriend will MENTION they have a boyfriend. Some take a bit longer to do it (that is a few minutes longer) because they like the attention, but they will do it. I agree most women will mention boyfriend/husband pretty early on in the conversation,so in a lot of cases if she hasn't mentioned anything she may be receptive to your advances. Link to comment
AcCePtad Posted November 26, 2010 Share Posted November 26, 2010 If shes seeing someone she'll be on her phone 24/7 smiling at her texts. but of course she could just be talking to her friend... Might be something for you to look out for though. Link to comment
hrtlsngl7 Posted November 29, 2010 Share Posted November 29, 2010 Look 4 ring or ring shadow and ask if she has children. Link to comment
DarkReality Posted December 2, 2010 Share Posted December 2, 2010 I honestly didn't like a whole lot of 'hoopla' when I was single so I say, just ask! It never rubbed me the wrong way to answer if I was single or not. I did however, *NOT* like hearing that question towards the start of the conversation. A: Hey there, is this seat free? Me: Sure, feel free to have a seat! A: So, you're awfully pretty ... too pretty to be sitting by yourself. Ya single? Me: *inner eyeroll and groan at cheesy statement above* Yeah.... I'm kinda seeing someone right now.... You should: Start a conversation, see if there's mutual chemistry then, ask the question when the time feels right (ie - there is chemistry, you've assessed her body language and gauged her level of interest and you've actually had a bit of a conversation). Link to comment
bostonbruins44 Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Look 4 ring or ring shadow and ask if she has children. Having children wouldn't be an indicator of her present status as obviously she could be divorced. Link to comment
chrias Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 Just come right out and ask if she's single instead of beating around the bush. That shows a lot of confidence and women are usually thrown off guard when you're direct. A lot of women know when someone is trying to find out info and their wussy radar is going at full speed. I find that women like cocky & funny guys. i.e. After having a quick convo and there's a pause say, "Are you single?" If she responds yes then say, "Great! I'll let you take me out sometime but don't try anything fancy, I'm not that type of guy!" This will get a laugh out of them. If they don't laugh, then they're not for you. I've walked up to girls in clubs where they're texting someone and I'll go right up to them and say, "Why are you trying to text/call me me when I'm standing right in front of you?" I've had a lot of success with this. There are so many other ways to approach women but I find being cocky and funny works the best...good luck Link to comment
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