PoopyBear Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 I need to express my feelings on this, it hurts so be gentle with me. I am hurting because I met a guy who was so like me, seemed interested and I pushed him away. He has been sick with flu and tonsillitis for just over a week and I rang him every second day. Too many phone calls, (I just wanted to hear his voice) too many times I asked if we could meet up and he text yesterday to say we wouldn't be meeting up again ever. I know it's because I was being intense and not allowing him to recover. Dammit I liked this guy. In his text he said we're too different. We are actually very similar people. I responded with "Online dating, easy come easy go" but thats not how I feel. I just sent him a email on fb saying; I'm sorry for being intense, I liked him and I'm sad I won't see him again. We're not so different, we are both number 11's in numerology and maybe thats why I felt a connection with him. We share other traits (quite a few) but I'm so quiet and shy in the beginning, he didnt see me. I'm sure I've really * * * * him off by sending the email but I needed to. I'm not expecting a reply but really, deep down I hope he will respond. I'm certain he won't because that would keep communication going between us and he doesn't want that. I'm just so annoyed and disappointed in myself for pushing this person out of my life completely. I need to grieve my loss and remember the lessons learned at this time so I may not make the same mistake again. Thank you for listening. Link to comment
jbrooklyn Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 how long was you seeing him? Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 23, 2010 Author Share Posted April 23, 2010 A few weeks, not long but felt real good and right. Link to comment
XxJustMexX Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Sorry, but he sounds like a jerk... You only called every TWO days and that was too much for him? That seems like an excuse to me... You shouldn't blame yourself for this at all girl. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Doesn't sound like you were contacting him that much. Don't be so hard on yourself. Sometimes we blame ourselves, but it could be anything. Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 23, 2010 Author Share Posted April 23, 2010 Probably not but I do. Probably wasn't that into me, just a good actor. Rejection is so horrible however I see the possibility for growth so he has taught me something. If I really think about him I can pick visual "flaws" that normally I wouldn't accept. I'm trying to focus on those. Link to comment
snoopydog Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 You didn't contact him too much so don't blame yourself for that! Link to comment
BriarRose Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Probably not but I do. Probably wasn't that into me, just a good actor. Rejection is so horrible however I see the possibility for growth so he has taught me something. If I really think about him I can pick visual "flaws" that normally I wouldn't accept. I'm trying to focus on those. Yes, rejection is very hard. But sometimes people reject us and it doesn't necessarily mean we did anything so bad. Link to comment
jbrooklyn Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 reject his butt back. Change his phone number to rejected and you will feel better. Put him back in the sea baby Link to comment
BriarRose Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 reject his butt back. Change his phone number to rejected and you will feel better. Put him back in the sea baby Yes, there are many others out there....make sure you get out there so you can meet them. Link to comment
DN Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 How do you know that it was because of the calling? Did he say that exactly or is it possible he just genuinely thinks you are too different and isn't attracted after all? I would not jump to conclusions unless he said that you were calling too much. Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 23, 2010 Author Share Posted April 23, 2010 Yeah he said he didn't like lots of phone calls and text messages. He said he wanted us to get to know each other as friends but we had already adventured past that point. A guy in my dance class is pretty keen on me. He is a nice guy and I've known him a little while but I don't feel huge attraction to him. I know hes going to ask me on a date and I'll probably go however my heart will be yearning for the other guy. I'm starting to believe I go after emotionally unavailable men, or they have commitment issues or something. It seems everything is fine until I start to feel for them then it all goes to tish. So sucks! Link to comment
BriarRose Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Yeah he said he didn't like lots of phone calls and text messages. He said he wanted us to get to know each other as friends but we had already adventured past that point. A guy in my dance class is pretty keen on me. He is a nice guy and I've known him a little while but I don't feel huge attraction to him. I know hes going to ask me on a date and I'll probably go however my heart will be yearning for the other guy. I'm starting to believe I go after emotionally unavailable men, or they have commitment issues or something. It seems everything is fine until I start to feel for them then it all goes to tish. So sucks! Well, the right guy won't mind you calling him. I hope you will at least go on one date with the guy in your dance class... Link to comment
BriarRose Posted April 23, 2010 Share Posted April 23, 2010 Is this the same guy who said all that stuff early on about "don't talk that heavy crap to me" or something like that? I didn't like him at all...I say good riddance! Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 Yeah it is the same guy Misskitty. I wasn't getting the message from that though, in the last few weeks him and I have talked alot. Last Sunday I got cranky with him in fb chat and he called me within a few mins to talk to me in person and make it better so I wasn't thinking he didnt like me. The guy from dance class just text me and and asked about my weekend. And although I'm feeling blue I'm feeling like lol-ing about it. It's ironic. Here is a guy who has a good job, is pretty nice, doesn't use online dating, doesn't use fb, doesn't use the internet apart from when he's at work and likes me. And I want the tosser... Whats up with that? Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 I want to cry. The dance class guy just text and asked if I want to get a dvd and chill with him but I"m so down I can't even begin to think about spending time with him. I don't know what to do! I am crying, whats up with me? Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 and I havent text him back. The last thing I want is to do the same thing to him as the other guy did to me. Link to comment
Terrin Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Maybe your numerology is good with this guy too? Did you compare numbers? Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 I dont know his birthday/number, maybe I'll text and ask that omg (lol at myself in despair) I'm so demented at times. Link to comment
Terrin Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Good idea If nothing else its a conversation starter. I hope he's not a 13 Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 lol Omg I hope hes just normal. What is normal? I feel abnormal. He wants to come over, I'm so mopey I can't be bothered fixing my hair, I always make an effort to look good including dance class. Although I think this guy would accept me no matter what I looked like and I guess that scares me a little. Will I ever know what I want? Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 I just found out his birthday is the same day as my sons! He's a cancer and a number 9, not that cool of a connection. Link to comment
Terrin Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 I just found out his birthday is the same day as my sons! He's a cancer and a number 9, not that cool of a connection. I guess forget about it then. Link to comment
PoopyBear Posted April 24, 2010 Author Share Posted April 24, 2010 Yeah I won't cross the friendship line with him, he is afterall in my dance class which I attend twice a week. Thats just too close to home for me anyways. And I'm still thinking about the other guy! Wouldn't be fair to go out with dance guy right now. Link to comment
Terrin Posted April 24, 2010 Share Posted April 24, 2010 Why not just take things as they come? Its like you're already made plans about what you are not going to do. Live for the moment! More fun that way. Link to comment
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