ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 I met this guy he seems really nice. He told me that he has 3 roomates! They live out in LA. He just got done taking the bar exam for the 2nd time. He says he really wants to become a lawyer. I was shocked when he said that he was 34 with 3 roommates.. (guy friends) is this a red flag? He seems really nice but I'm not sure if this is a bad sign. What do you think? He wants to go out on Saturday for dinner. Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 LA isn't cheap but living with 3 male roommates spells bachelor pad.. Still go on the date just to see how he is like. Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 yeah he told me that he has been in college and he has had his fun but he is looking for a real relationship now...so I'm thinking maybe give him a chance? Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 Sure why not? You got nothing to lose really. Link to comment
mandyc Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 It really depends on where he lives in LA. I have a 33 year old cousin who makes a good amount of money as a personal assistant. She lives in New York City and she has 3 roomates as well, and she still pays almost $1,000 a month for a room! Living in cities like that can be so very expensive that it might not be possible for him to live on his own, or like my cousin, he might not think it is worth it to have his own place yet. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 That wouldn't exactly thrill me to pieces but perhaps you should go out with him and get a better idea of why he lives with roommates rather than alone. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 From what I hear, the CA bar exam is one of the most difficult ones in the U.S.. It has a very low pass rate. It sounds like he is a student trying to better himself, and doing what he needs to do until he is more financially stable. Rooming with 3 people seems much better than other options, such as living with his parents, etc. IMO, it would be premature to rule him out based on such little information. You'll need to get to know him more and visit his home to make an informed choice. If his home is a party palace and he's 34, well then you might be concerned.... Link to comment
Kaiser_Soze Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 If it's a 1 bedroom house, yes. If his mom drops by to do their laundry, yes. If you and find 3/4 of them still in bed at home on a Monday at say 2 pm, yes. Really the only way this is not a red flag is if they are shooting the movie Half Baked 2 or it's a really kick ass club house! I bet they've got a secret knock. Link to comment
Doc Blaze Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 rent aint cheap...i have 2 roommates...the area where i live is very expensive also..why you going to waste money living by your self when you can save money Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 If it's a 1 bedroom house, yes. If his mom drops by to do their laundry, yes. If you and find 3/4 of them still in bed at home on a Monday at say 2 pm, yes. Really the only way this is not a red flag is if they are shooting the movie Half Baked 2 or it's a really kick ass club house! I bet they've got a secret knock. so you're saying this is a very big red flag? Your sarcasm isn't transferring very well. sorry. Link to comment
lana111 Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 not at all a red flag. my ex will be 33 and has two roomates- and he was totally normal. just three single guys trying to live affordabley. 34 and living at home is a different story... Link to comment
DN Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 Why do you think it is a bad sign? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 Rather than worry about why he has 3 roommates, it's more important to see how he treats you. Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 Because most people at that age have their own place. Usually college students have roommates. I guess? Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 Rather than worry about why he has 3 roommates, it's more important to see how he treats you. Yeah you're right, I guess I'm being too judgmental? Link to comment
geekgirl4 Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 If he got out of law school, that must mean he has a LOT of debt to pay off so that's something I would definitely keep in mind. It would be different if he was living at home (now that's a red flag). Does he have his own room? Sometimes it's a choice too. I make enough to live by myself but choose to live with aptmates because I hate coming home to an empty place, I get too bored and lonely! That and saving money for a future house helps. I say concentrate on his apt lifestyle - do he and his roommates just play around all the time like college freshmen? Does he treat you well? Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 Yes he told me he has his own room, we met on link removed so we are going to meet on Saturday officially..so thats why I was asking for advice on if he is even worth meeting...or is it a red flag right away. Link to comment
Creative Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 I wouldn't necessarily say he's abnormal. But he's definitely 'behind'. My experience with guys tells me that he's one of those guys that doesn't get any respect from others, so he tells people the prestigious occupation he'll be in one day. Link to comment
Organs Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 Because most people at that age have their own place. Usually college students have roommates. I guess? In this economy?? I'm still living with my dad because I'm trying to get a career-based job and pay my bills! And also, there's a reason I live with my dad and not my parents. I wish it was due to a divorce... Basically, there's a variety of reasons these days why people would live with parents or multiple roommates in their post 20s, many of which aren't the least bit shameful. Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 Well he didn't seem like he was just telling me he wants to be a lawyer just to feed me lines, he told me that is what he really wants to do with his life and if he doesn't pass he will be getting a regular job. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 LA is not cheap. He probably pays more for 1/3rd of an apartment than most people pay on a single apartment who live in a less expensive area. Also, he's a law student, he's paying a lot as it is just to get his career going. He sounds extremely ambitious and disciplined, so the apartment is not a red flag at all. Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 superficial. Thanks for your meaningful input. Also I find it funny you ask people not to judge you in your post, but you do that to me...How hypocritical of you. Link to comment
obs Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 Isn't this pretty normal with the cost of living in that area? Link to comment
ImNotYourBabe Posted March 26, 2010 Author Share Posted March 26, 2010 I don't know, thats why I'm here asking for advice. I'm seriously not trying to be a jerk I just want to avoid any red flags since I hear online dating is really dangerous. Link to comment
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