bebeblondie Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Guys: How long would you wait for sex if 1. you really like the girl 2. she's just ok Also take into account how desperate you are for sex..meaning if you are the type of guy who has no problem getting laid obviously unless you really like the girl you probably won't stick around too long. But if you are the type of guy who doesn't exactly have a line of girls waiting to go to bed with you, you probably would stick around longer. Link to comment
retired1 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 How long would I wait? However long it takes. **chuckle** There has to be an emotional connection before I hop in the sack these days. The days of my youth and "wham bam thank you ma'am" are long gone. Link to comment
Raistlin Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 I've waited over a month, and I've done it 4 hours after meeting. Link to comment
bebeblondie Posted June 9, 2009 Author Share Posted June 9, 2009 what if you're not seeing the girl very often....maybe like once a month for example. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 what if you're not seeing the girl very often....maybe like once a month for example. Then i wouldnt be seeing her... or again after a month or two.... Link to comment
brokenheart311 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Usually I'm about 4-6 weeks into a relationship, but it's usually offered up by the 2nd week. I make THEM wait...seriously. Link to comment
retired1 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Again, it depends on the emotional bond and where we're at in the relationship. Do I expect to hop in the sack after the first meeting? Nope. While sex is a very important part of a relationship in my eyes, it's not so important that I'll push the issue too soon. With the last relationship, we were 5 months into the relationship before anything happened in the sex department. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 You're assuming that a man will wait longer if women aren't lining up to have sex with him - but that assumes that men want sex without an emotional bond and without a commitment - just "sex". I think that's an inaccurate generalization and that attitude about men likely will have a negative impact on your friendships/relationships with men. Most of the men I was seriously involved with were willing to wait -- meaning, happily -- until I was comfortable and half of them would not have had sex before we had been dating at least a few months and were serious and committed. In most cases I waited at least 4 months and until we were serious, committed, with strong potential for marriage. Link to comment
Jelina Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Wow, my guy has almost waited 5 years. He must really love me. lolz Link to comment
coyote1980 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 It's kinda off topic, but Mitch Fatel made a joke about it. Girl usually wait for 6months to have sex. Mitch I totally respect that.........sooo call me in 6months? Just reminded me Link to comment
retired1 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 Wow, my guy has almost waited 5 years. He must really love me. lolz Hmmm. 5 years is pushing it in my book. LOL Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 lol, wow, i wonder if age plays an effect on these answers. i don't want to have sex again unless it's to the guy i intend to marry. guess i won't be married at all! loll Link to comment
Jess2006 Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 2 weeks max. Lol! Love that answer. Link to comment
servedcold Posted June 9, 2009 Share Posted June 9, 2009 I don't wait for sex. If the woman is great company and pleasant, I don't view it as waiting. I always let them know I want them though, and will take things to the bed as fast as possible if there's a connection. These days, like some other male posters in the thread, I find it 50/50 as to who pushes first and fastest. Women in their mid 30s to mid 40s seem to be a horny lot these days, and I'm fine with that. If we aren't having sex within two months of meeting, there's usually not potential there, but it's been so long since it took that long that I'm just hypothesizing. Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted June 10, 2009 Share Posted June 10, 2009 Well if we go exclusive and she's still too uncomfortable to have sex, she'll probably be too uncomfortable to do any of the other things I like to do in bed anyway if we ever do have sex. Link to comment
Ammy Posted June 10, 2009 Share Posted June 10, 2009 This stresses me out too.. And seeing most of the replies here makes me worry more! But what Batya said is great too.. Hopefully there are some men who will wait until you're fully comfortable and committed. Ammy Link to comment
Blue Spiral Posted June 10, 2009 Share Posted June 10, 2009 I agree with ghost69, two weeks max. Though if some sort of advanced makeout hasn't happened by then...well, it's not a good sign. There is an exception if they have to go out of town, though. Link to comment
bebeblondie Posted June 10, 2009 Author Share Posted June 10, 2009 Well I ask because there is this guy I have sort of been talking to for the past year, we mostly communicate through text and we've only seen each other 5 or 6 times....it's very casual. However, we've never had sex I mean I know he wants to but he never really pushes the matter (which I'm thankful for cause I don't think I'd feel comfortable sleeping with him just yet). When we do see each other, he holds my hand, puts his arm around me, hugs me, kisses me, but that's it. I guess I'm just puzzled as to why he really hasn't pushed for sex with me, is he waiting for me to make the move? Link to comment
longdist Posted June 10, 2009 Share Posted June 10, 2009 Honestly, if it is the right girl, I'd wait as long as needed. I have no problem finding girls and getting laid, trust me. That's not what I'm about though. I went through a phase where I enjoyed that. In my last relationship I asked the girl about 2 months into it and she said she wasn't ready. She is the type of girl that would wait until she got married. It was worth it to me b/c I loved her. I waited 4-1/2 years and she eventually broke things off with me. Link to comment
goodfoot Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 I'm never exclusive unless we're having sex. So I probably would be having sex with someone else, so I guess I could wait forever. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 Guys: How long would you wait for sex if 1. you really like the girl 2. she's just ok Also take into account how desperate you are for sex..meaning if you are the type of guy who has no problem getting laid obviously unless you really like the girl you probably won't stick around too long. But if you are the type of guy who doesn't exactly have a line of girls waiting to go to bed with you, you probably would stick around longer. 1. until marriage 2. after I paid for the third dinner Link to comment
spainman_88 Posted June 11, 2009 Share Posted June 11, 2009 If I'm really into the girl, absolutely....I will wait a while. However I find it's hard for me to commit to an exclusive relationship before having had sex (or at least been close to it). I can't work with the "commit to exclusivity and then begin sexual type interactions after." If I like her a lot I will wait for the actual act, but something else has to happen before we are exclusive. Anyone agree with this take? Link to comment
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