So gutted feel i have been used and feel so sad she broke up with me

[luke2005]

i met my girlfriend 4 months ago she had split from her boyfriend a week before, i looked past that cause i thought she was in the wrong relationship before, she said she really liked me, after a month she said she loved me, we were together all the time, then 3 weeks ago she told me she meassaged her ex, hiya, she showed me and he messaged bk, she ignored it, i thought i would give her a chance, then last week she text me out the blue saying she wanted to be single i didnt fight for as i want my partner to love me and want to be with me, i spoke to her 2 days later, she said she had met with her ex the day after we split, she says she wants to be single have nobody for a while, im gutted i really am, she was texting me quite alot but i was ignoring some or taking a while to get bk to her cause of pride. She says she wants to be friends but i am finding it really hard she has been horrible to me and i text her yesterday afternoon and she hasnt replied since i keep thinking she is with her ex again and it is really upsetting me, can i really be friends with this girl???? should i just change my number and just think i had a lucky escape, i she has got back with her ex they will never work it out anyway!

[Mutley]

Yea forget this one.

 

You guys have got to stop hanging around with chicks everyday when you first meet them. No wonder it fizzles out in four months.

[HyruleGuardian]

She texted you to break up? That's messed up. That alone shows a huge lack of respect for you.

 

I'd cut my losses and move on.

[DN]

Another vote to move on - she isn't worth your time and emotional investment.

[Clabs]

Hi Luke

 

I agree, she is a waste of space.

[luke2005]

thanks guys, does anyone think i should stay friends with her

[Mutley]

What for?

 

She sounds like a flake.

[DN]

Nope - she doesn't even act like a friend. Friends don't carelessly hurt.

[tulipsfav]

Hi, cut all contact with her, seems like you were her rebound. Let her be single. Sorry

[OziJack]

Hi, cut all contact with her, seems like you were her rebound. Let her be single. Sorry

 

Bingo !

 

The role and purpose of 'rebound guy' is to bloat her ego and provide endless validation to repair her damaged sense of 'market value'.

You will never form a successful relationship with a women who has just been dumped. She wants you in her life to occupy the vacant space beside her for a while until she manipulates her ex back, or finds herself a Bigger Better Deal ..at which point you are sweetly dropped in the FZ , because she still wants you as 'fall back' in case her plan with her ex does not work out.

 

To the OP, do ya get that ?

[tulipsfav]

Bingo !

 

The role and purpose of 'rebound guy' is to bloat her ego and provide endless validation to repair her damaged sense of 'market value'.

You will never form a successful relationship with a women who has just been dumped. She wants you in her life to occupy the vacant space beside her for a while until she manipulates her ex back, or finds herself a Bigger Better Deal ..at which point you are sweetly dropped in the FZ , because she still wants you as 'fall back' in case her plan with her ex does not work out.

 

To the OP, do ya get that ?

 

Absolutely, its all about someone else occupying her thoughts, very unfair. I know with me being dumped 11weeks ago, if i was to hook up with someone it would most definitely be a re-bound. Though emotionally i am not ready or even fit for dating. It is not fair on the other peron involved who is the re-boundee.