water_baby Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 hello i need some help. my bfs friend appears to be ...how can i put this ..obessed with him. i wouldnt mind too much but as a result he hates me and is very rude. i havent really said much to my bf about it because they have been friends for a long time. i have let so many things slide but this weekend he called me a and was getting really angry with me. i know it is not that relevent but he is a heavy drug user and a all round dodgy character. when i spoke to him he told me a few things that rang alarm bells...the following - "i used to love pete doherty until i met your bf" - "i idolise him" - "i love him more than my gf" this coupled with him starring at him constantly, getting very jealous of me being with him. i dont really know how to handle him. my bf is aware that he seems quite needy and jealous of him but he doesnt know to what extent. how should i handle this Link to comment
Truth317 Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Your bf needs to sit down and have a talk with him about all of this. Link to comment
DN Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Why did he call you that name - what happened? Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Agreed. I think if you want to have a good relationship you must be open and honest with your boyfriend and tell him what his friend has said to you. This guy sounds like he needs some help. Link to comment
water_baby Posted December 22, 2008 Author Share Posted December 22, 2008 he called me a name because i said i was going to go sit with my bf now because i had left him on his own for awhile. he made a comment about how i didnt suit something (something random) so i walked away from him. he is just very argumentative for me to even have a conversation with me. i dont want to offend my bf or suggest that this guy fancies him but thats how he acts. he has a gf but its just hard to explain. my bf is in a band and when he last performed i was there and thsi guy said "dont get a big head, he can get any girl he wants"...out of the blue i fear that if i say something they will stop being friends... Link to comment
DN Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 I think you should just inform your boyfriend what has been happening and let him decide what to do - don't ask him to do anything just see what he decides. Link to comment
water_baby Posted December 22, 2008 Author Share Posted December 22, 2008 yeah, you are all right. i just dont want to be that girl ...you know the one that comes between two best friends. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Oh wow...those things you stated that he said ARE creepy. I don't blame you for being shaken up. Yes, talk to your b/f. If he refuses to do anything aobut it or to see what is in front of him then make your decisions about the future of this relationship accordingly. Link to comment
Shyguy24 Posted December 22, 2008 Share Posted December 22, 2008 Talk to your Bf,i am guessing that he will be the best person to respon to his friend. Link to comment
water_baby Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 thankyou so much everybody. sometimes i sit and think am i being silly. am i being mean to him and wondering why i feel so uncomfortable. i will say something to my bf..hopefully i wont be writting in the "breaking up" section of this forum. many thanks Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 yeah, you are all right. i just dont want to be that girl ...you know the one that comes between two best friends. Well, there is a difference between coming between two friends and his friend being outright hostile and nasty to you. If he's a good boyfriend he will put his friend in his place and tell him the way he is acting is uncalled for. Link to comment
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