Godwin Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 Would/do you find it acceptable for someone to simply approach you in the street/store and to ask you out? I consider myself a good looking, well dressed guy with loads to offer, my main problem is not self-confidence but rather opportunity. I simply cannot see where/how I am going to meet anyone. I have tried Dating sites with some success(see my other thread) and friends of friends but having been single a few months now I am seriously starting to worry. I see girls in the street and we make extended eye contact but to tell the truth I would find it weird for someone just to ask me out. What do you girls think? Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 I don't think it's unacceptable, but I wouldn't take the asker up on their offer. Link to comment
kaoticbaby Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 if a guy just marched right over to me on the street and asked me out i'd think he was psycho, to be honest, no matter what he looked like. you will have more luck if you find something small to comment on or something else in common with her so that you could at least strike up a bit of a dialogue before flat-out asking her out. if you just walk right up to her, she'll know all you thought "shes hot enough." but if you at least give her a chance to talk for a few minutes, she could feel as if you thought she was funny and friendly, too. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 I don't think it's unacceptable, but I wouldn't take the asker up on their offer. ^^Ditto......I'd think it was somewhat creepy myself... Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 ^^Ditto......I'd think it was somewhat creepy myself... Or seems desperate. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 why u only asking women on this? i've done it. i've gotten numbers. i don't see the big deal. now, how you go about it is a completely different story. Link to comment
i_win Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 I did this to the girl I'm currently dating. Didn't just go up to her and ask her out, but ran into her on the street and struck up a conversation and then after a couple minutes gave her my business card and told her to call me if she had any questions about the area(she was new). She called, but for some reason...didn't want to talk about the area...just wanted to get to know me. Link to comment
Chupa Chup Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 If a guy walked up to me and asked me out, I think he's either an extremely confident man or he's just creepy. (however, it might be complimentary to you) I'd like to think that most guys are the former but you never know so it pays to be a little more wary and careful! sometimes being too confident puts people off. the guy would probably have more success asking a lady out if he had something in common with her and struck a conversation with her under more "normal circumstances" say, in a coffee shop, whilst ordering coffee or a muffin - something like that! Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 There goes my game plan! LOL lost Link to comment
doyathink Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 There goes my game plan! LOL lost Ok, well now if it was YOU, then........ lol Link to comment
Godwin Posted October 2, 2008 Author Share Posted October 2, 2008 I totally agree, I guess it is creepy. Hence why I have never done it before. It would weird me out anyway. Ideal plan would be some subtle conversation this can always be followed by "Hey, I need to get back to xxxxx, would be nice if we could meet up and finish this conversation over a coffee or something". Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 the million $ reason: the creepiness is when the girl doesn't find you attractive. Link to comment
kaoticbaby Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 the million $ reason: the creepiness is when the girl doesn't find you attractive. ive had a guy come up to me in the mall, hand me a piece of paper, and say "i'll give you a call tonight." and he wasnt bad looking. but i still had to say "um, no you won't" Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 ive had a guy come up to me in the mall, hand me a piece of paper, and say "i'll give you a call tonight." and he wasnt bad looking. but i still had to say "um, no you won't" that's too bold though. i always say start some kind of dialog. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 I did this to the girl I'm currently dating. Didn't just go up to her and ask her out, but ran into her on the street and struck up a conversation and then after a couple minutes gave her my business card and told her to call me if she had any questions about the area(she was new). She called, but for some reason...didn't want to talk about the area...just wanted to get to know me. That's more the way to do it. Walking up to a girl you don't know on the street and saying, "Hey would you like to go out sometime?" is a lot different than striking up a conversation, flirting some, and then asking for her number. Link to comment
zenbabyk Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 If he had enough guts to come up to me in the street/store. I would give him the benefit of the doubt. If I got a good vibe from him, and he was confident & not cocky I would def. give him a chance, or atleast accept his number. I say do it! Link to comment
confused25 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 I think it would depend on how you are planning on approaching the girl. If you are attractive, I might be flattered, but if you are not, I might just be creeped out . . . . Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 I think it would depend on how you are planning on approaching the girl. If you are attractive, I might be flattered, but if you are not, I might just be creeped out . . . . Yes, ugly men are creepy, attractive men are not...it's a fact. (that's why Ted Bundy the serial killer was so successful) Anyway, I've done it and successfully, however, you need some kind of "in" - something in common, some kind of common ground to work with. For instance if you are standing in long queue and something weird happens. It is a bit of a crap shoot. It works better if I don't really care about the outcome. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 Ugly serial killers managed to lure women too... The Yorkshire Ripper Fred West... When I was younger, a strange guy came up to me in a store and asked my name. I was like, wth?? He then wondered why I'd looked at him like he had two heads....and I scurried off I was freaked out..... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 Ugly serial killers managed to lure women too... The Yorkshire Ripper Fred West... When I was younger, a strange guy came up to me in a store and asked my name. I was like, wth?? He then wondered why I'd looked at him like he had two heads....and I scurried off I was freaked out..... must not have been hot. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 must not have been hot. To be honest I didn't pay that much attention as to whether he was hot or not... I was freaked and because he was a strange guy, asking my name I mean that is kinda creepy when they just walk over and do that. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 To be honest I didn't pay that much attention as to whether he was hot or not... I was freaked and because he was a strange guy, asking my name I mean that is kinda creepy when they just walk over and do that. well, i wouldn't have just gone for the name myself. Link to comment
ycmanvs Posted October 2, 2008 Share Posted October 2, 2008 If the guy is really good looking, most women would be flattered and not as ready to be "creeped" out by him. However, I would find it odd if a stranger just came up to me and asked me out without first introducing himself and giving me some idea of who he is. Link to comment
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