CoCo2009 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 yeah I guess I screwed up huh? I don't know I guess part of me knew what his answer would be. I don't know. Its only 2 and I get off at 4pm so not quite over. Link to comment
LostTranslation Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 But I can't deal like with the dreams. and in the morning and weekends. Im so depressed and alone. Get stronger girl...Mentally and physically...I dont understand why some women are attracted to men who are insensitive and cruel/controlling when there are plenty of good men who would love the opportunity to go out with you. What you describe is the core of who this guy really is....Know that and Ask yourself: Why am I attracted to these qualities and what are the good qualities about him that I rationalize/compensate for the bad. Move forward and don't look back OMG.. Your beautiful and 27! Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Hang in there! I'm heading out for the day. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 Get stronger girl...Mentally and physically...I dont understand why some women are attracted to men who are insensitive and cruel/controlling when there are plenty of good men who would love the opportunity to go out with you. What you describe is the core of who this guy really is....Know that and Ask yourself: Why am I attracted to these qualities and what are the good qualities about him that I rationalize/compensate for the bad. Move forward and don't look back OMG.. Your beautiful and 27! so you don't think I'm overreacting? Link to comment
LostTranslation Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 No I dont. The question you asked him about New years is something my x would have asked me. I would have never even thought about wanting to spend it with a friend.....If that's his choice, then that's OK. (you know where his heart is at) but if you really love this guy, know that hes on the other side of the fence or is delusional about committing to you.....I know it hurts but my suggestion about getting stronger is purely constructive...single here and I eat right and push myself to workout enough so that my head is clear and I look as good as I can... Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 No I dont. The question you asked him about New years is something my x would have asked me. I would have never even thought about wanting to spend it with a friend.....If that's his choice, then that's OK. (you know where his heart is at) but if you really love this guy, know that hes on the other side of the fence or is delusional about committing to you.....I know it hurts but my suggestion about getting stronger is purely constructive...single here and I eat right and push myself to workout enough so that my head is clear and I look as good as I can... thanks for your outlook Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 OMG I miss him and want to call already. * * * Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 Are you sure because I am the one that said "why the eff not" and then he said "why so angry" then I said " Why are you being like this" I think you are right because why would he hang up on me after saying the latter? It just didnt make sense. I know I shouldnt have cursed but then when I said the other part I was trying to understand what happened. I'm not in the wrong here am I? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 Well you arent going to believe this. He came to my apartment wondering why my phone was off! I told him I was tired of being hurt and I needed time to myself. He said he wants to spend time with me but I was strong and told him I needed time to myself. I was strong for a change Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Well you arent going to believe this. He came to my apartment wondering why my phone was off! I told him I was tired of being hurt and I needed time to myself. He said he wants to spend time with me but I was strong and told him I needed time to myself. I was strong for a change You did good! I'm so proud of you! Link to comment
karvala Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Good for you! You see the benefits of standing up for yourself and asking for respect. Now you need to decide on an exit strategy from the situation, i.e. a way to return to normal relations (if that's what you want) without the point of what happened being lost on him. If it were me, I'd wait for his next approach, or if that doesn't happen within a couple of days, make an approach myself, explain calmly that you will not accept him hanging up on you but that you are now willing to put the incident behind you and you hope that things get back to normal. The chances are, he will be offended in some way and or at least will try to wrestle back some of that lost territory by pretending to be offended. Don't give in to it, and don't engage with it; just say you'll be there when he's ready to resume normal relations, and then ignore any further antics until he finally gives up and normality can be restored. Link to comment
healthseeker Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I'm going to try and get an appointment as soon as I can but it probably won't be for a few weeks because of work and money. I'm sorry, but this feels like an excuse. There are places you can go that work with you on a "sliding scale"...you pay what you can afford. You have to make time for this. If you have time to wait around on him so much, you have time for therapy! Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 I'm sorry, but this feels like an excuse. There are places you can go that work with you on a "sliding scale"...you pay what you can afford. You have to make time for this. If you have time to wait around on him so much, you have time for therapy! yeah I guess it is an excuse then.. I don't have much money but if there are places I can find that are really cheap then I just need to go Link to comment
healthseeker Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Okay, good. You will feel so much better...I have been where you are! Do a search on "sliding scale therapy" in your area...or "free therapy"...you should find something. If not, call a local theapist's office and ask them if they have a list of places that do this type of thing you could pick up. Link to comment
RougeKali823 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Yeah, I undestand that feeling. It will go away in time. You may want to try NC for a long while and then take it from there. Until then though try not to think about him and don't let it affect you at work.Thats giving him too much power. Link to comment
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