CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I hate that I let him in my life I hate that we got back together I hate him so much I wish I never met him ever. I was thinking we could make some fun plans for new years and he was like its to early plus I always spend new years with you I might want to be with my friend instead. I was like * * * and he said "why the anger" and I said "why are you like this" an he hung up in my face. I hate him so much I wish I never met him you guys. I hate him so much I'm at work and I'm crying and I just can't believe it. I tried calling him back and his phone is turned off. What a jerk. I'm just going to have to be alone because he doesn't make me happy Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 I just want to die it hurts so bad I hate him and the way he makes me feel. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Ugh, my ex gave me that same spiel about new years once, its not nice, surely he should want to be with his girl for new years! I think he just thinks he can treat you however he wants Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 I'm not going back with him I have to let him go all he does it make me cry and it hurts. He can be so sweet but thats not what I need. I need someone thats true. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Ummm... I think you're overreacting just a tad. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 You will be happy alone. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 and he just hangs up in my face and turns his phone off? WOW! Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 Im like hyperventalating I hate him so mcuh Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Okay.....PM me hon if you like x Link to comment
KrayzieBeautiful Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 aw hun that really sucks.... he sounds like a jerk! I would really stop trying to call him, it will just upset you more, especially when your at work. Just wait till you get home and you can have a big cry about it then. but seriously stop calling him he should be calling you. Whatever happens keep your head up, your so much better then that. xo Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 I can't even live my life because I'm always thinking of him and I love him and after 5 years all he cares about his hiself and it hurts me to the core. Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 Ummm... I think you're overreacting just a tad. no you don't understand he just is so weird lately and he claims he loves me so much 5 freaking years and hes acting weird. I can't take this anymore It sucks because i LOVE him but ugh its just not enough I guess Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Good riddens to the a ! LOL I don't think its overreacting because you need your new years kiss! I don't think he ever got to experience his single years though and thats why hes acting out now. Link to comment
KrayzieBeautiful Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Hes a jerk, you can do better. Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 From the posts I've read, you're better off without him. Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 This has been a never ending battle with him. I've followed your threads for quite sometime now. Why can't you just walk away? Link to comment
h0pelessr0mantic Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 OMG, i COMPLETELY understand how you feel. My boyfriend pulls the same bull on me ALL the time. He will hang up on me and turn off his phone so I can't reach him, and the most angering thing is that he usually hangs up for absolutely RIDICULOUS reasons. It also makes me SOOOOOOO angry and SOOOO hurt because how can someone that loves you turn so cold? and i know you are probably the type of person who wants to talk things out with him, because you want the relationship to work. So when he hangs up and turns off his phone, its like he doesn't really care at all. And that makes you mad and frustrated because if you are making the effort, why can't he??? Honestly, you need to leave and stay out of your relationship. 5 years and he is still like this??? I know you go back to him because he says all these sweet things (baby, i'm so glad to have someone in my life like you, i will never love someone as much as i love you, you have to take me back i love you so much you are my one true love....honestly, its all bull), and he probably talks about a future together, kids, a house, etc etc etc. I know how these things can just tug at your heart strings, and then you make excuses to take him back, and you so desperately want to believe that THIS TIME...things will be better. They will NOT get better. He reminds me sooo much of my boyfriend (which i am going to break it off with soon). The other day i was reading over msn conversations that i had with my boyfriend and these guys KNOW what to say. They will tell you that you're beautiful, that you're special. They will call you sweet names like babygirl, sweetie, hunnie, dearest, etc etc. They will say i love you, they will give you kisses over the phone, they will randomly come up to you and hug you and kiss you. all i can say to that is BULL BULL BULLLLL. They KNOW that by using words and a few kisses here and there, that they can REALLY get to us. They KNOW that. It is easy to say things, it is easy for someone to lie and say i love you and i will always love you and only you, anyone can do that. The hard part is actually following through and SHOWING that you love the person. I have read your past posts and i have to say that he does not respect you. Before you can have any love there has to be respect, before you can form any kind of relationship with anyone (even just a casual friend), there MUST be mutual respect. If he cannot respect you, that means there is no love. I KNOW you think that there is some part of him that really truly does love you, but maybe he doesn't know how to really show it properly. That is the same thing i am guilty of and that is why i have not left yet. We both need to open our eyes to the truth. This time stick to your decision of breaking it off. I am COMPLETELY regretting taking my boyfriend back. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I have just spent some time reading some of your previous posts. From what I can gather you have had nothing but trouble with him since you got back together. He seemed to be forever making plans with you and then breaking them for his friends. You have reason to believe he was lying when he told you he was helping his sister move etc. In my opinion he has known all along that you wanted to get back together and he knew just how easy it would be to get you back and he thinks he can get away with acting this way because you will take him back time and time again. I hope this is not the case. It concerns me that when you told him that you cannot be in limbo-land as you put it and you wanted an answer he turned around and just said "ok then, lets get back together" just like that, which tells me that he isn't really serious about a relationship with you if he can take the matter that lightly and part of me wonders whether he did this in fear of you cutting off the sex with him. I don't think you spent enough time apart to work on yourselves before getting back together and everything happened too fast. I think you both have issues you need to work on separately before either of you are ready for a relationship. I have also read some of your other posts and know you are seeking help for your issues but I think that with where you are now you really need to try to be alone to work through these issues. He seems to cause you nothing but stress and you don't need it at the moment. I would leave it atm, don't contact him or chase him because that is exactly what he wants. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I don't know the full story of your relationship but clearly from what others have written it seems like he doesn't treat you right. I am just wondering, however, why you are already talking about New Year's when it is only September 4th? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 I don't know the full story of your relationship but clearly from what others have written it seems like he doesn't treat you right. I am just wondering, however, why you are already talking about New Year's when it is only September 4th? I don't know I don't know. I just thought it would be cool to like make plans for Vegas or something together since things get booked fast or maybe I was expecting him to say what he said because he has been acting like his friends are all he cares about lately. Maybe? I don't know but I'm hurting and I'm lost and scared and I dn't know how to deal Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I think it is more than acceptable to EXPECT to spend new years with someone you are in a relationship with! Don't be scared, we are all here for you x Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 But I can't deal like with the dreams. and in the morning and weekends. Im so depressed and alone. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 It's time for you to stiffen up. There is no reason another's actions should constantly get you to the point of hyperventilating at work. I know that you've been hurt by him. But at this point, you need to start taking responsibility for your part in this. You constantly participate in an unhealthy relationship. You know that talking to him sometimes upsets you so why do you even talk to him at work? The question about Vegas, was it not a test by you? Constantly give a man tests and they will eventually disappear out of your life anyway. See my signature line. Noone can make you..... I feel bad for you I do. But you've been obsessed with him for how long now? To the point of it seriously troubling you at work, during work, not going to work, having to see a doctor. When is enough enough? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 It's time for you to stiffen up. There is no reason another's actions should constantly get you to the point of hyperventilating at work. I know that you've been hurt by him. But at this point, you need to start taking responsibility for your part in this. You constantly participate in an unhealthy relationship. You know that talking to him sometimes upsets you so why do you even talk to him at work? The question about Vegas, was it not a test by you? Constantly give a man tests and they will eventually disappear out of your life anyway. See my signature line. Noone can make you..... I feel bad for you I do. But you've been obsessed with him for how long now? To the point of it seriously troubling you at work, during work, not going to work, having to see a doctor. When is enough enough? I don't know Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 This man is clearly toxic for you...you need to walk away from this or else you will really make yourself sick and jeopardize your job. Nobody is worth ruining your health and your work life. You need to toughen yourself up and realize that it is far better to be alone than to be in constant tears and agony over what this guy is saying, doing, not saying or not doing. Link to comment
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