emalkoc Posted August 4, 2008 Share Posted August 4, 2008 Well, it has been a year for me today since I broke up with my ex. I want to give you ENAers a perspective. First 6 months, there were a lot of confusion, hurt etc. whether to do LC vs. NC and try to get back while recovering. Second 6 months with the help of a new city and new gf, relief, new life, new joy and realizing how wrong a relationship it was. Here are my wisdom words: - DO NC...Dont fall into LC trap and be a backup for your ex. Thats mostly they tend to do. - if not necessary (kids etc.), dont be friends!. - Go out and force yourself to date. - Dont talk about your ex to friends and new girls. very unattractive! - Analyze what went wrong and dont repeat. Dont try to find a same looking or same personalities on new girl. Dont jump into serious RS right after..Dont rebound! - Dont punish yourself about what went wrong. Even if you were wrong more than 50%, believe me! the other person is as guilty. Sooner or later you will realize. But she will say that you did it..dont get trap into that. - Take care of your body. Go to gym. Stay away from stress. - Eat well. Dont stay home and eat junk. Go out with friends and eat out or cook together. very relaxing! - When you date, dont rush into sex. Enjoy their company and go out movies and activities. Involve in group tours and travels. - Get yourself a girl buddy For current and future discussions. very helpful. - Write down on a piece of paper what went wrong and what you want. remind yourself everytime you meet someone new whether they match your list and anything on wrong list resembles old girl. - Come to ENA and get advice from experienced girls and guys (CAD, Rapunzel, Zorba, and Dave... - Move on and Dont take ex back! Once is broken, it is meant to be broken. You deserve better. - You will meet even a better person because you are just grown up even further! Good luck...There will be days down. but there will be light at the end of tunnel no matter what. Cheers Eric Link to comment
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